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A person can shame a victim and make that victim feel shame whether it is justified or not.
Strict societies successfully use shaming of individuals or classes as a form of social control.
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Emotional abuse and shame go hand in hand—a perfect
marriage, so to speak.
Shame is a significant factor in emotional abuse since it is the primary damage caused by emotional abuse.
It is also
the primary tool used by abusers and the source of
emotionally abusive behavior in abusers.
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Shaming slowly whittles away at the victim’s
self-esteem and
self-confidence and makes her question her perceptions and eventually, her very sanity. Weakened, worn down, and confused, the victim loses her ability to fight back.
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Shame is by far the most destructive aspect of emotional abuse and it can be the most difficult to heal.
Why Shame Is the Most Damaging Aspect of Emotional Abuse
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If you’re told these things often enough, you might start to tell yourself, for example, “I’m not worthy of love.” And holding onto feelings of unworthiness can be
very damaging to your mental and physical health.
The Dangers of Toxic Shame
Shame is behind these two common symptoms:
- Withdrawal. You might want to curl up in a ball and disappear when you feel shame. Shame makes us feel like we’re not good enough, and all we want to do is hide away.
- Anger. Because you feel emotional pain, you become angry to try to aim your pain away from yourself.
Toxic shame has also been linked to substance abuse, eating disorders, and self-harm.
These unhealthy coping mechanisms can serve as an escape from your emotional pain or inability to face yourself.
You may also become a perfectionist or have unrealistic expectations in your attempt to avoid being shamed again.
What Is Toxic Shame?
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