iamshadow21
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Kids play up. They have tantrums. They yell 'I hate you' when they don't get their way. It is normal. It is a typical part of development of self and autonomy. And yes, they will go through phases of preferring one parent over the other, this is typical, especially favouring the parent who is out of the home, going to work.Just a few things from the trial:
She didn't feel instantaneous love for the girls. She tried her best to be a good mom. The girls preferred dad over mom and I think this really got her. The kids wouldn't listen to her. They would throw things at her, even a bowl of cereal with milk.
She stopped taking her meds before they moved to NZ. I don't think she saw a psychiatrist in NZ either or restarted her meds. The day before she killed the kids, immigration asked for a letter from her previous psychiatrist.
Thinking thoughts of harming the kids was a new feeling she didn't have with post partum depression. She snapped when the kids became out of control and wouldn't listen. She went to the garage and got cable ties. She then explains how she killed the girls. I don't feel comfortable putting it here.
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Her husband is her rock. She has spoken before that she couldn't have alone time with him as there would always be a kid there.
She thought they "made a very bad decision by moving".
In South Africa they had a large back garden with a trampoline and jungle gym and things were nice. The were in quarantine I believe before they moved when living with his mother. Also in quarantine when the arrived in NZ. House was small and they got out one hour a day. Meals were delivered to their door. In SA she became paranoid as a result of the riots and looting in her home country. I read she told the oldest they couldn't go to the toy store because of bad people.
Yeah, 'snapped' doesn't work when we know she's been fantasising about harming them since before she left SA.
And wow, does she have resentment about the kids 'intruding' in her relationship with her husband. Why on earth did they persist with IVF for the twins, if she was disillusioned with parenting after the first child?
She hated them, she resented them, she killed them. No psychosis here.
MOO