I really don't see how it can be a sexual fantasy for anybody to investigate a missing person case about a teenage girl, let alone when it's about someone you didn't know and never even met but you're free to think otherwise. ^^
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hello everyone I use to post on maura's thread quite a bit but havent been here n awhile ..I just have one question have any of you seen watched or heard about the guy on youtube that goes by user name- mister112dirtbag i wont say anything more about why just wait to see if any of you have heard of this guy and his actions....
hello everyone I use to post on maura's thread quite a bit but havent been here n awhile ..I just have one question have any of you seen watched or heard about the guy on youtube that goes by user name- mister112dirtbag i wont say anything more about why just wait to see if any of you have heard of this guy and his actions....
I really don't see how it can be a sexual fantasy for anybody to investigate a missing person case about a teenage girl, let alone when it's about someone you didn't know and never even met but you're free to think otherwise. ^^
I really don't see how it can be a sexual fantasy for anybody to investigate a missing person case about a teenage girl, let alone when it's about someone you didn't know and never even met but you're free to think otherwise. ^^
I know EXACTLY what fireweed means. Ive noticed this phenomenon myself. I'm not saying that every man interested in this case finds it to be some kind of pseudo sexual fantasy to be interested in a young, attractive young girl going missing but that doesnt mean that there are some older men who have attached themselves to this case who dont. Common fantasies involve both power and sex together and by inserting oneself into this case you could argue that you achieve both a *power* of some sort because you have access to information that others dont, and also that you get just close enough to the woman in question to get some kind of thrill out of it, without having to face the reality of who that person actually is, flaws and all. In fact, I would go so far as to say that MANY fantasies people have are OFTEN about people they have never actually met because they can make it all up in their heads- the sky is the limit as far as what you imagine that person to be like. You can imagine all kinds of things about them and those things can never be refuted by actual real life. Put it this way: can you imagine a middle aged woman releasing a video like alden olsen did if Maura had been a young 21 year old male who went missing?......
I do not think it is a sexual fantasy. I think it psychologically meets a need to feel a strong connection with an attractive young female who is a "damsel in distress" to them. You see that they brag about knowing things about her that other people do not know. I think that getting involved in cases like this gives them a sense of ownership over that female.
I simply observed that it is generally middle-aged men who have become sexually and intimately disenfranchised from young women who do this. I have never seen them do this when a young man goes missing. Maura's case I think is very titillating to them because Maura was a total damsel in distress who was "running from her father". Clearly this case hits a lot buttons with men. I mean they finally on the podcast allowed a female to speak. And whenever women here do express an opinion about what it is actually like to be a woman that age, the men "in charge" always shoot it down.
My opinion is that it breaks the fantasy cycle for them about who they think Maura was, or how they think any young pretty woman is. It is especially distressing when we bring up that Maura was a grown adult with free agency.
I know EXACTLY what fireweed means. Ive noticed this phenomenon myself. I'm certainly not saying that every man interested in this case finds it to be some kind of pseudo sexual fantasy to be interested in a young, attractive young girl going missing but that doesnt mean that there are some older men who have attached themselves to this case who dont. Common fantasies involve both power and sex together and by inserting oneself into this case you could argue that you achieve both a *power* of some sort because you have access to information that others dont, and also that you get just close enough to the woman in question to get some kind of thrill out of it, without having to face the reality of who that person actually is, flaws and all. In fact, I would go so far as to say that MANY fantasies people have are OFTEN about people they have never actually met because they can make it all up in their heads- the sky is the limit as far as what you imagine that person to be like. You can imagine all kinds of things about them and those things can never be refuted by actual real life. Put it this way: can you imagine a middle aged woman releasing a video like alden olsen did if Maura had been a young 21 year old male who went missing?......
I don't think it's appropriate for us to be speculating on that type of thing nor is it appropriate for us to throw Alden Olsen in the picture and compare him with John Smith who has done some actual research. We can go on about this but like I said I don't believe men would be acting any different if Maura happened to be a man. With that being said, there are idiots everywhere. I'm a man myself and when I go into missing person cases, I don't go into them thinking : "Geez, if only I can help solve a mystery that involves a beautiful teenage girl". You see what I mean, I don't pick my interest in a case based on the gender of the missing person and I honestly want to believe that most men also don't choose based on gender.
Do you know of any missing persons cases involving young men that have gotten so much attention?
Do you know of any missing persons cases involving young men that have gotten so much attention?
IMO the combination Maura's vulnerability (many things) and her toughness (athletic, West Point) draws a particular set of fans. She's a damsel who needs to be rescued, but after that she's admirable and strong. Something about the two sides together make her more interesting and desirable than other women who go missing.
JMO
A lot of the missing young men on the Disappeared show like Zebb Quinn or Michael Fuksa (before his remains were found) have gotten a lot of attention over the years. There are probably a lot more, I can't think of any right now but keep in mind that women are generally more likely to go missing than men, at least that's how it is in the US and Canada. The reason why the Maura Murray case has been getting so much attention is not because Maura is a woman. It's because the circumstances surrounding her disappearance are incredibly mysterious and unprecedented. I'm sorry but I'm not buying this extremely dogmatic idea that people care more when a young teenage girl goes missing than when a young teenage guy goes missing. There are several factors that come into play that need to be taken into account to explain why some cases get more attention than others (the race of the missing person, their past, their social circle etc.) but I don't believe gender is one. It's all well explained here : http://www.wlwt.com/news/Examining-...cases-get-more-attention-than-others/26216258
I wish it werent true, but unfortunately gender and race *do* play a role in the media attention/public response given to missing people:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missing_white_woman_syndrome
It seems that attractive, young, white women DO get the most media coverage/public interest and society really needs to ask ourselves why this is. There is a very specific gender/race dynamic going on here IMO.
Moody, Dorris and Blackwell (2008)[8] concluded that in addition to race and class, factors such as supposed attractiveness, body size and youthfulness function as unfair criteria in the determination of newsworthiness in coverage of missing women. Also noteworthy is coverage of missing Black women was more likely to focus on the victim’s baggage such as her abusive boyfriend or troubled past, while coverage of white victims might focus on her role as a mother or daughter.
Kym Pasqualini, president of the National Center for Missing Adults, observed that media outlets tend to focus on "damsels in distress" – typically, affluent young white women and teenagers.[12]
Dr. Cory L. Armstrong wrote in the Washington Post that "the pattern of choosing only young, white, middle-class women for the full damsel treatment says a lot about a nation that likes to believe it has consigned race and class to irrelevance".
I'm NOT saying that in order to have an opinion on a case you have to be the exact same age or gender as the missing person, please dont misunderstand me. All I'm saying is, its very very frustrating when a case like this is so dominated by men that they seem incapable of listening to a female perspective on the matter.