Agreed! My comment was speculating on the emotions of some on here...I can give examples but don't want to elaborate as I will identify some posters...I really do think that some people have gotten very wrapped up in all of this and are no longer looking at it as an observer but have simply become very defensive of Allison ( Not saying this is Wrong) and they are no longer able to look at anything objectively. IMO!
There are now close friends on this site which has been interesting and insightful but it has also made it very hard to be objective and have an opinion. That's OK though....!
I just wanted to voice my opinion that having an Affair is not the same as Murder and most people don't go into these things thinking that the worst thing that could happen would be that he will kill his wife if people thought this then it would never start - Just saying that it is very extreme to believe that TM knew that he was capable of this!!?
Coolcat, I am not particularly responding to only your post. I am responding to the series of posts on the topic of having an affair with someone not being the same as committing murder and issues related to that topic. It is just that I am reading your post at a time that I have to actually write my thoughts. Boy, it is hard to keep up with this site...LOL!
I agree that according to modern law courts that no one is going to go to jail for having an affair. I also agree with the posters expressing the opinion that having an affair with a person that you know is married isn't right. I'm with Dr Watkins on the value of a lifelong happy monogamous marriage. I do understand that in 2012 that our society is generally more permissive and accepting of alternative views to this, though my personal opinion is that this permissiveness etc. doesn't improve our society at all. Maybe I am old fashioned but I make no excuses for my opinion.
What I have found interesting is the notion that someone could have an affair and not expect that the result of the affair could be that a person is murdered. I know that this is an extreme scenario......and probably a rare result of an affair...however it is not a new possibility. Throughout history I am sure that it has happened repeatedly even from ancient times. The bible which is a well known historical document is full of stories of people doing such things.....particularly the Old Testament. I think Makara has on the bottom of her notes a quote referring to the fact that the web of lies and deceit/ wrong actions grows and leads to more of the same. I don't remember the exact words of Makara's apt quote.
When people make wrong choices (like affairs as an example) it has the great potential to lead to other wrong choices and more people being hurt, especially if you add to the mix people trying to cover up their wrong actions. One well known example in the bible is that of King David. He was Ancient Israel's second king. He was a well loved and respected king...however he lusted after someone else's wife...had an affair with her....got her pregnant...then to cover up arranged for her husband to be killed by positioning him in the front line of fire of a battle...so that it looked like his death was the result of war. So King David's affair ultimately led to someone's murder. In the end King David was remorseful of all of his actions which is good and demonstrates that their is hope for people who go down very wrong paths like the case that we are following. (Despite this hope for remorse and positive transformation in the lives of the person(s) responsible for Allison's demise.. I still believe that justice still needs to occur.)
Anyway, in the bible there are many other examples of the spiraling of wicked and/ or deceitful actions into greater wickedness resulting in things like murder. The book of Judges in the Old Testament is full of such sordid stories...that though ancient are full of modern relevance.
All of this makes me think about what we as a society can learn from what GBC is alleged to have done and what it has resulted in. Maybe we need to be more humbly aware of where any sneaky little wrong things that we get involved in and may try to cover up can lead, even if we don't want them to lead there........and then try and stop while we can before it snowballs out of control.
Just as a clarification...where I have used the example of "affairs" potentially leading to more wrong I believe that "affairs" can be replaced with other things like greed etc......and any other myriad of behaviors and actions. It was just simpler to explain my point using the one analogy related to affairs.
This is all just my humble opinion. I have learned so much from so many of your posts and value all of your contributions...though I don't write often. So thank you.