Of course there were warning signs, to a "normal" person who's not being abused. What people fail to see is that this IS some people's normal. These "warning signs" you see, could be her confirmation she's loved. Ever hear the phrase "negative attention is better than no attention"?
There's a ton of information out there on what happens to people when they are physically and emotionally abused. It's valuable information when trying to make sense of these situations.
I was abused by my mother and raped by my father. So what. That is absolutely no excuse for letting my children be abused or abusing them my self. NO EXCUSE.