NY NY - Robert Mayer, 46, Dix Hills, 14 Jun 2013 - # 8

[Eileen730]

The thing is, because we don't have details of his life at home, I have a hard time believing he would leave simply because it was so terrible that he was pushed out.

Most people do not leave unless there is something horrible happening to push them away, like deep physical and/or mental abuse.

Unless, of course, there is something drawing them away from their life. What, besides another woman, could be such a lure that he would leave his children?

The only thing that would lure a man away and sever all ties with kids is to run away with another man. He would never let his kids go thru that ridicule.
But I don't see this... Do u? 18 years married?
I don't know!

 

[ElizaAvalon]

The only thing that would lure a man away and sever all ties with kids is to run away with another man. He would never let his kids go thru that ridicule.
But I don't see this... Do u? 18 years married?
I don't know!

I don't see this either.

There are some couples I know that I'm surprised this hasn't yet happened with but I do not see this with RM.

 

[Sere-nity]

R


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[Clemenza]

Suicide?

To me that's last on my list!
I cant say why.
Just a feeling!

This is rather high on my list. IF he left voluntarily, to me this is the reason. I agree that leaving his children behind is unlikely for Rob. I know it happens but, if we are to believe he was a great family man, I can't see leaving the kids. I understand spouses have differences. Just thinking about how I'd handle it, just as people have said, get a divorce and move on. See your kids. Wild horses couldn't get me away from my kids. Suicide is far more common than people realize. He could have been battling a number of inner deamons. Feelings if inadequacy, financial stress, an addiction, unhappy marriage etc. Maybe several or all of these things. IMO, if he left voluntarily, suicide is a very possible theory.

 

[TxLady2]

People have been known to disappear, leaving their lives and their families behind to start over someplace where no one would think about them being. Some have faked their own deaths. Ask anyone who has been in LE for a number of years, or a PI, for that matter, they'll tell you it does happen.

If a person planned to just disappear, why would they tell their spouses or friends about it? Not much point in doing that if you intend to leave your life behind and start over, is it? It would take some planning, but people have managed to stay hidden for years without anyone finding them.

 

[Eileen730]

This is rather high on my list. IF he left voluntarily, to me this is the reason. I agree that leaving his children behind is unlikely for Rob. I know it happens but, if we are to believe he was a great family man, I can't see leaving the kids. I understand spouses have differences. Just thinking about how I'd handle it, just as people have said, get a divorce and move on. See your kids. Wild horses couldn't get me away from my kids. Suicide is far more common than people realize. He could have been battling a number of inner deamons. Feelings if inadequacy, financial stress, an addiction, unhappy marriage etc. Maybe several or all of these things. IMO, if he left voluntarily, suicide is a very possible theory.

True Clem!
I just really don't want to think this is what happened.

No way out!

 

[hot cawfeee]

Did we discuss other neighbors's security cameras??????? That great pic we had of the Mayer's house gave us a good visual of the immediate neighbors---possibly only one neighbor has a security camera---what about the across the street neighbors and the one/ones the property backs onto.

 

[hot cawfeee]

I noticed in the background of the missing poster just posted..there are slot machines. Any gambling issues? havent heard that tossed around.

IIRC we muddled it in with possible drug abuse---and it all went into the ball of money problems-----but good idea Curious-looking more into the pictures--you can get a real sense of things

 

[ElizaAvalon]

The only thing that would lure a man away and sever all ties with kids is to run away with another man. He would never let his kids go thru that ridicule.
But I don't see this... Do u? 18 years married?
I don't know!

HOWEVER, the only bone of contention that we know of is the mystery man that RM lied about communicating with to IM in the past.

It is likely to me that this was related to a possible addiction of some sort as hinted to by our verified insider. I can't think of any other reason a husband would have to keep secret his communications with a male friend from his wife (besides a bookie, but I believe we were told he was not a gambler).

So how does a possible addiction play into this? Was he possibly going through withdrawal? Is depression involved in withdrawal? I have no knowledge of this at all.

 

[Eileen730]

I think the pic of the slot machines could have been taken on the cruise ship.

They are not all that far from Atlantic city either! If he went she went too remember he has never been away from home!

 

[Eileen730]

HOWEVER, the only bone of contention that we know of is the mystery man that RM lied about communicating with to IM in the past.

It is likely to me that this was related to a possible addiction of some sort as hinted to by our verified insider. I can't think of any other reason a husband would have to keep secret his communications with a male friend from his wife (besides a bookie, but I believe we were told he was not a gambler).

So how does a possible addiction play into this? Was he possibly going through withdrawal? Is depression involved in withdrawal? I have no knowledge of this at all.

Im not buying the Drug addiction theory!
A bookie yes! A loan shark yes!

 

[Eileen730]

Ok guys bbl have to go to werk!
Hi Ho Hi Ho! lol

 

[ElizaAvalon]

Im not buying the Drug addiction theory!
A bookie yes! A loan shark yes!

Why?

Our verified insider said he was not a gambler.

Our verified insider hinted that there was a drug problem.

Why embrace the thing he claimed weren't the case and discard the thing that he said was?

Hmmm.., loan shark. Now that's something I hadn't thought of. That is quite possible. As I've said many times I don't see them meeting their household budget on his salary alone.

However, I would think that IM would know about the loan shark. Surely she isn't buying lobsters oblivious to their financial status.

 

[Momoffourboys]

I agree, eliza.
We were given very few clues by our insider. Many changing "facts" by others.
I go with the drug scenario. Something went terribly wrong. Most drug scenarios do
End that way...terribly wrong for one reason or another. IMO.

 

[hot cawfeee]

Possible she could Eliza-------someone controls the checkbook in the house---Maybe it was RM in theirs. Or special weekend, so you spend a little extra---who knows.

The "insider" could be mistaken about gambling and / or drug problems. The pictures we have seen of RM show an attractive, healthy man---doesn't "look like a typical drug user". And gambling--Lordy-could be anything from spending $$ on scratch-off tickets to on-line betting to calling the bookie. Very good chance no one could know----people can keep secrets for a long time---slightly OT but Mr C had an uncle who carried on a long time affair (20 years) with a woman-no one knew until he told Mr C's father b/c he was going away with this woman and wanted someone to know-just in case and to get an alibi. My f-i-l told no one until many years after the uncle's death---I know who the woman is b/c I had wondered why we always got some extras at the bakery---its b/c she was the woman. People can keep secrets about themselves

 

[Momoffourboys]

Possible she could Eliza-------someone controls the checkbook in the house---Maybe it was RM in theirs. Or special weekend, so you spend a little extra---who knows.

The "insider" could be mistaken about gambling and / or drug problems. The pictures we have seen of RM show an attractive, healthy man---doesn't "look like a typical drug user". And gambling--Lordy-could be anything from spending $$ on scratch-off tickets to on-line betting to calling the bookie. Very good chance no one could know----people can keep secrets for a long time---slightly OT but Mr C had an uncle who carried on a long time affair (20 years) with a woman-no one knew until he told Mr C's father b/c he was going away with this woman and wanted someone to know-just in case and to get an alibi. My f-i-l told no one until many years after the uncle's death---I know who the woman is b/c I had wondered why we always got some extras at the bakery---its b/c she was the woman. People can keep secrets about themselves

The pictures we have seen are portraits and family vacation shots. IMO those dont represent the way a person looks day to day. Dont forget IM stated he may be unshaven and in every picture he is clean shaven. We know things are not always as they appear to be.

 

[hot cawfeee]

and the "mystery text man"--- it could be a lawyer, the Jerk-friend from High School (everyone knows their spouse/other/bf/gf has one!!!---lol), a sponser, or a female--again--lawyer, sponser, buddy from work, former co-worker..........maybe it was a car collector??? RM was a car guy, yes?? Maybe had one to sell or knew of one to sell????

AAnd-thats another place to keep an eye out---Car shows--lots on LI especially this time of year

 

[hot cawfeee]

The pictures we have seen are portraits and family vacation shots. IMO those dont represent the way a person looks day to day. Dont forget IM stated he may be unshaven and in every picture he is clean shaven. We know things are not always as they appear to be.

a few looked hmmmm.......not so staged-I think thats the phrase I want---one is on the beach, one had I think the Brooklyn Bridge in the background-might be a work picture.
They seemed more casual than the family portrait and the casino pic with Ida.

 

[Curious Cathy]

This is rather high on my list. IF he left voluntarily, to me this is the reason. I agree that leaving his children behind is unlikely for Rob. I know it happens but, if we are to believe he was a great family man, I can't see leaving the kids. I understand spouses have differences. Just thinking about how I'd handle it, just as people have said, get a divorce and move on. See your kids. Wild horses couldn't get me away from my kids. Suicide is far more common than people realize. He could have been battling a number of inner deamons. Feelings if inadequacy, financial stress, an addiction, unhappy marriage etc. Maybe several or all of these things. IMO, if he left voluntarily, suicide is a very possible theory.

Your theory would work except for one fact. The car seat being pulled forward for a shorter driver. I am confused as to why no information was released about the fingerprints in the car and on the water bottle on the front seat. I still think we are missing some information that would paint a better picture. People who have help within the police force can get things brushed under the carpet and information can be omitted very easily. We have people calling for information and, instead of getting information, they are being threatened with questioning. Someone is connected to someone in law enforcement and the details of this case are heavily guarded. :twocents:

 

[To Kill a Mockingbird]

Can we start a thread called

The Rumor Mill --- unsubstantiated,yet possible relevant information?

(the same name is a thread on the Long Island Serial Killer) thread...[in the parking lot]
and has proved very useful.

there is a lot of unsubstantiated yet possible relevant information being brought forth today.... why not have it all on a dedicated thread?

C'est possible?
thank you