I've had friends with daughters tell me girls
are easier to raise, I only have sons. I wonder
also if girls have more one on one connection
to mothers and absentee fathers do not affect them as much.
Going by what's on sm one can read a lot into
what's really going on within families if you
look and interpret correctly.
I agree the parents have been put in a horrible
situation and to lose two children has to be horrific and worse considering the circumstances.
But if we're to learn more about preventing these tragedies we have to be willing to dig
for the possible causes and understand where
it all started.
The seeds of CB's dysfunction began many years ago and festered for more than a decade.
Yes, maybe alcohol and drugs played a small role as he aged, but the initial anger and violence was always there.
We see this in so many cases of young men who seem to suddenly go off the walls and commit atrocious crimes, but professionals
who later come in and study them usually find the trouble was years in the making.
Haha, that's funny I've always been told boys are so much easier.
There certainly is a lot of drama in my daughter's life that I could do without.
And yes, of course environmental factors play a role in mental health and the development of disorders, especially personality disorders, as they are shaped during adolescence.
Some people are born with a genetic disposition and may or not develop a disorder. Theres no doubt that they will look very closely into all of this just as they have done in every other case. There has been 30 years of research on mass shooters.
But that he was having violent fantasies or uncontrollable urges, especially that frightened him, tells me he may have had a chemical imbalance or may have had a genetic trait that developed into something more severe if it was left untreated. And certainly parents need to get all the help they can for any child with these kinds of problems. It would be hard to believe his parents would not be aware, especially after the strangling incident that was reported.
We don't know his medical history, which would be a much better indication of a problem and the family dynamics than social media.
Like my daughter always says, "you can't believe everything you read online."
I'd rather leave it up to the experts and actual reports before making assumptions about what the family did or didn't do.
I think an absentee father has just as much affect on girls as it does boys.
Do we know if the father was not involved? If they were divorced, did they have visitation with him?
There are still a lot of unanswered questions, and it will likely take a long time for authorities to determine the motive and the mental health history of this guy. I'm sure they will look very deeply into his past. Imo