Colorado303
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It’s sad but the stigma of having a “bad” child is very real and contributes to the problem. If a child is physically disabled, seriously injured or has cancer communities often rally to support the family. That’s seldom the case for parents doing their best to raise a child who’s potentially dangerous due to cognitive defects or mental illness. They are often labeled responsible for the child’s problem and shunned instead.Put them in alternative learning environments, where they can at least be closely monitored. There is no perfect answer. I think sometimes people are just bad and there is no way to weed these people out of society until they have already done something horrible.
There is also the stigma that comes from having a “bad child.” The parents know they will be judged and most of the time they love their child. They probably thought they could keep him from snapping if they kept him close.
I don’t know what the right answer is in these situations. Who does the responsibility fall on?
What should these parents do when one of their kids wants to kill the new baby or burn down the house with everyone in it? What should they do if their 14 yr old son gives indications he will rape their 12 year old daughter the first chance he gets? Even if they can find qualified, knowledgable mental health help resources, medication and therapy may not be able to address the deficit and certainly not immediately.
Sometimes it’s necessary to remove the child from the home to keep the other children safe. As is the case w/stalkers, LE and DFS generally won’t do anything unless or until the child does something terrible. Private institutions are prohibitively expensive for all but the wealthiest families (and insurance rarely takes care of it).
Unfortunately, in todays US system “abandoning” the child and making them a ward of the state is sometimes the only way parents can make sure their kids will qualify for and receive the mental health resources so badly needed. This is a gutwrenching, heart-breaking decision made that much worse knowing they’ll be judged by others to be a terrible parent. Others smugly certain they could do better with no appreciation for what the parents have been dealing with. Others quick to judge while actually understanding very little. These same people will be first in line to criticize the parents for not “doing something” if/when the mentally ill child harms someone else. They are not helping.
I’m not defending the Dayton shooters parents, but I’m sure not willing to judge them yet based only on rumors, speculation and the few facts released to date. But that’s just me.
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