AllyBeeUK
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I agree. I had some similar feelings a few threads ago about how it does feel sort of biologically unfair that two people who are both responsible for starting a pregnancy don't have to bear the same burden in dealing with it. I guess that's an age-old gender disparity issue that will never die.
But that's assuming that both parents have the opportunity and knowledge required to bear the burden. It's possible that if Skylar HAD told Trey about the pregnancy as soon as she knew, he would have rejected her and not helped her or taken responsibility for his child. That's certainly how many, many young fathers have responded throughout history. But in THIS case, she did not tell him, so there is no reasonable way he would have known, so how he would have responded will never be the point. They both made the choice to have unprotected sex (I assume it was consensual because nobody's said otherwise), but only she made the choices that came up later. She guarded the choices from everyone. He never had the opportunity to make a choice so he doesn't bear the burden of those choices, legally or otherwise.
Now, do I think his mother's statement was a tad overwrought? Yep. I respect her grief and don't pretend to know how she feels, but I think her initial response to hearing Trey was the father (i.e. eye rolling) speaks more directly to how Skylar may have reasonably anticipated she would be received if she had told Trey and his family about the pregnancy rather than the sentiments expressed in her statement today.
I am in complete agreement with you. I have my own thoughts on many things, including Ms. Johnson's comments in court but I will keep them to myself. It's not possible to know how he would have reacted so I won't assassinate his character but nor am I going to presume he would have been Father of the Year.
I have given the benefit of the doubt to Skylar and her family since the beginning of the trial and I intend to afford the same respect to Trey and the Johnson family.