First of all, since you don't want to continue I will fully respect that and these comments are not directed at you. Rather, I would like to use the experiences you posted as a starting point to post my own experience in this area. Please don't take this response as me looking for a response from you, I am not.
Second of all, you have no risk of being banned for expressing your opinion, even if it's not the same as the majority, as long as you do so respectfully. Which you have done. And we don't censure people here, we have no mechanism to do so.
So...
When I was in High School I had the pleasure of driving home a very intoxicated female classmate from a friend's house. I had not been there for the events leading up to this, but I got the phone call (I presume) because 1) I had a car and 2) I was not drunk in the middle of the day.
When I got there this girl was clearly drunk, and since we were both 17 as was everyone else involved there were a whole bunch of things wrong with this. She was someone I knew pretty well, as I went to a small private HS (graduating class of 61 people), so we all knew each other.
So, after getting her ID out of her purse to find out where she lives, I'm driving her to her house and she's getting rather amorous. Clearly it's the disinhibitory effects of the ethanol as I am not what you would consider an attractive individual. So, of course, I pulled over, put her in the back seat, fastened the seatbelt around her, and finished driving her home.
This was in 1978, and the movie Animal House had come out that summer. There's a scene in that movie where a drunk girl is left in a shopping cart at her parents' house while her date rings the doorbell and runs. That thought briefly crossed my mind as well, but no. Propping her up, I rang the doorbell and waited - and her father answered the door. I didn't know if I was going to be shot, and the look on his face I can remember to this day. I introduced myself, explained the situation, and handed his daughter over to him.
By the time I got home her father had already called and spoken to my mother. While she was less than happy about the whole situation, she did tell me that her father had thanked me for bringing his daughter home, and he believed me that I had nothing to do with getting her that way.
In case it's not clear, I didn't touch her. I mean, I had to touch her to carry her around, but the only contact I had with her was that, despite the fact that in her state she was fairly insistent that I do otherwise.
Now.
I had never been told explicitly, either at school or at home, that it's not right to mess around with a drunk girl. I never had to watch a film strip and take a test afterwards, I was never presented with a list of rules or a flow chart to follow to determine when it's OK to touch someone else's squishy bits. I just knew it was wrong to take advantage of the situation, and I did not. I don't think that makes me anyone special, my point is that it's no excuse for the subhuman dirtbags in this case to say that they didn't know that sticking their fingers up a passed out girl's privates isn't wrong. It's wrong, and if they in fact did not know that then they've got some of the lousiest parents I've ever heard of. What kind of mother would be proud of her son getting up there and saying that nobody involved in raising him every gave him the slightest inkling that doing that was at all wrong? If it was MY kid I'd make sure they said they KNEW it was wrong and they did it anyway - and they deserve the consequences. And yes, I've done that with both of my kids. Once each. Never had to do it again.
It's like politicians and ethics. When they are caught they say the rules were not clear. Well, if you've got to write down your ethical standards so that you can find ways to evade them as written, you are already lost.
So that's my story. I understand that the singular of "data" is not "anecdote". I don't know what sort of legal trouble I could have gotten into - I wasn't drunk, I had not been drinking at all and the only alcohol in the car was in my passenger's circulatory system, don't think you can get busted for that. Regardless, the right thing to do was to get her to her parents to take care of her, and I would have done it regardless. And I know a lot of other guys that would do the same. I don't think I'd hang around guys that would behave differently.
And...I was on the football team as well.
