He is not an incel by definition, but he may have qualities that would make others incel. I think he had something of the type, but a good family was always helping to normalize it, until he was considered independent enough and moved out. Then everything went down the hill. He said in that Rotary speech that he was making drywall for four years, so maybe not that of college material after school to start with? But with constant studies, maybe tutors and other help he made it, only to realize that his profession meant a lot of hard work and he didn’t like it so much? With his training, he could earn a lot as a traveling nurse, but why does it feel that his family was still concerned about him? JMO. MOO - he presented better than he was, maybe appeared more gifted than he was, but with time, things started declining, and it was a big source of stress.