- Yeah I thought the report of him missing was done quickly, but thought that was just my own thought. As mentioned, after a night of drinking and bar hopping as was put out to the public, I would really just assume he was hungover, sick, sleeping, missed the alarm and just hasn't gotten up for the day yet.
I don't really know that co-workers would call after me at all because of not being at work the next day...not without a reason.
Putting myself in co-worker's situation, if I leave my co-worker from happy hour and they don't show up for work the next day, I'm not calling cops and fearing they're missing. Even if when we said good bye I didn't see that person get in their car, or make it home etc. And even if we left and said "let me know when you're home" and didn't speak after that...I would still just think (espec after drinking) that the person forgot. I myself may also forget or fall asleep (again esp. after drinking). My point is that my mind just wouldn't go to the worst thing first. Again, not unless I had reason (like knowing something uncomfortable was planned such as a meet up). Wondering if perhaps the co-worker does know more and has been cooperative, provided that information.
A while back I had asked if anyone knew why Grindr was such a focal point. I don't think anyone replied to that, so I'm asking again. Anyone know how it came up? I haven't seen anything that shows reason to point to that specific app. So is it possible that the co-worker knew of a meet up, or of a situation and has provided this info and that's what prompted focus toward that site? My point being, I don't think it's that no one is saying anything....I think it's just that not everything is being aired publicly. You can't tell me not a single co-worker, friend, fellow student etc is concerned and isn't anything.
Now that co-worker(s) and reason for the happy hour come up... I'd like to know a couple more details. I don't really think about the why for the celebrating necessarily. The end of the work day seems like a good enough reason for a bit of drinking to me. My main thoughts are about why so late and why so much on that particular day of the week.
I think I read somewhere it started out as a few people and then dwindled to DJ and 1 co-worker....is this accurate? Is co-worker male/female? I thought I read female but a lot of stuff just says "co-worker" and I'm not really seeing "she"s or "her"s in a lot of stuff. Also, around the same age and how close are they - enough to talk about dating sites, who they're currently seeing, previous/current hook ups etc? Because I think there could be a lot of thoughts based off of thinking that all the co-worker(s) are same age and have similar life situations and interests...but it's possible that may not be the case. I work with and happy hour with a large age range of co-workers.
I try to fit myself in this situation with different co-workers playing the "co-worker" part of the night and I have to say it really does change everything knowing those little details. Some situations have me dragging the person out for "one more drink, one more stop!" etc and some have the co-worker doing that. Some situations are a hey keep me company til it's time to meet ____ (which would keep the timeline going late). It also really varies with the level of openness and personal info I'd be sharing. See what I mean?
Ya know, a lot of us have a lot, and I mean a lot of good points, theories, thoughts, questions and suggestions no matter how big or little, they could all be helpful in piecing this together. Thank you all and keep them coming!
These are great thoughts! I have been wondering almost from the beginning about unanswered questions related to the co-worker and their place of employment.
But this particular question did not occur to me. Why *did* they call so quickly?
Some people have speculated that they may have been out to celebrate, but really the first thing that occurred to me is that they may have been out to console somebody. Did they get bad news from school? Did their company have layoffs or did a particularly trying project come to an end? Was someone having relationship problems? Maybe that's the reason for bar hopping. Perhaps that coworker was trying to console Dakota or vice versa. Or if someone was having relationship problems, they could hang around, they bar hopped seeing it as an opportunity to break through with someone they were interested in romantically.
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