^^ No need for me to quote what you post, as we know on WS, our words are here to stay.
I agree with you that WitSec is likely something we WISH had happened.. Did it? We don't know but some inactions by Lara could be due to her knowing he is or was alive. I'd like to respectfully point out that for his " legal declaration of death" hearing, she was not present. Gave phone statements or video Skype type statement, but did not appear, and was not legally required to appear.. but maybe most of us would have done this differently if it was our parent.
Also, again, I know this is a kind of touchy area for a lot of people, but there has never been a memorial service. IF Ray was almost destitute, and the family was impoverished, I can see why they might have not held any type of memorial service with maybe a permanent marker in a cemetery or even another type of memorial on city grounds, as some prominent figures do have in their honor.
Does this mean he's not dead and someone knows he's not? I don't think so, but I'm not a PA resident, and there may be cultural differences at play in the past and now too. His nephews are still his adult nephews, his daughter is still his adult daughter, but his girlfriend moved out and everyone's life has gone forward all these years.
Did they ever consider a memorial service as a form of public honor and remembrance? Did they ever discuss putting up a permanent marker in a cemetery to mark the life of such a helping man in his legal profession? As a loving father? I do not know.
I've never even seen any discussion about a memorial to Ray Gricar in all these years, unless one of us has raised the question.
If it were my daddy, and I AM quite a bit like Lara, I am an adopted daughter and only child of my father's through adoption, which makes me no less his daughter, I would have had a memorial service for him shortly after he was legally declared deceased that was open to the public, and I would have had personal security there that was tight if I had lingering fears for my safety. I also would have spent a bit of the inheritance we believe she likely received to have a lasting monument placed that honored his life, and legally, the date of death could be the last known date he was seen- April 15, 2005, or the date he was declared legally dead, which would probably have been my own personal choice, as it is the only real closure this case has had that we are aware of.
I had thought that one person might have to be notified with regards to the leavetaking in WitSec, but in Ray's case, I'm not sure that Lara was a legal adult when he disappeared, Patty was not a legal relative, and the eldest nephew, Tony, has been the most vocal about " finding him", so I think that's out. Also, agree with you that obviously, to the best of our knowledge, he was not threatened in any unusual manner just prior to his disappearance. And that there is likely money which cannot be found, in the absence of a forensic financial investigation.. Which wasn't done. Sigh.
But, remember- I have paid close attention to the death of a Texas sitting DA and a sitting Texas DA who had severe emotional traumas which precluded her from fulfilling her duty to the office, several hospitalizations for rehab. due to substance abuse, another for mental issues ( believed to be depression but not otherwise specified), and those events changed the way I look at the overall security level and ability to perform the duties of a high profile job such as a DA has.
I paid attention to everything that unfolded in both cases close to where I live because of Ray's missing status.
It leaves me with a slightly more serious impression that he could have had a killer after him, or could have had issues that were personal in nature that were deeply hidden. The DA known in this area with personal issues DID keep her personal life private until after her election. She had the problems prior to the election, but no one spoke out, apparently. Her ex husband was vindictive, and so was her first assistant DA, whom she fired, either justly or unjustly. The justification for the firing was always unclear.
However, two angry men alerted the media that there were unusual goings on in this DA's personal life, and they sensationalized it to the max for over 2 years. Who can perform under that kind of pressure and scrutiny? I couldn't have. It was horrible, and by " it" I mean, just the parts that did make the nightly news, not the day to day living that the DA had to do with a hostile staff, and with a newly broken home life as well.
But her ex husband, her fired staff, others in the DA office unduly painted an X on her back because of their needs for revenge, and called it " concerns that the constituency needs to know before they go to trial in Dallas".
They did not consider her to be a person in need who was getting help, they considered her to be a target.
In a different environment where there is congeniality and support born from years or knowing and working with a person, rather than negativity, anger, and mistrust towards a new DA who happened to have the worst possible set of circumstances collide with her election, would the DA have a chance to get the help he or she needed without public outcries for dismissal? I think so, because a DA is a person first, a DA second. All people are due the right of privacy under HIPAA.
At some point, if a person could not get back on their feet personally, yes, they would need to resign. She did so, and I hope she finds happiness and stability out of the public eye.
I would hope the same thing if this had happened to Ray Gricar. Obviously, it didn't. There are no long periods of days to weeks of absence in his career, as far as we know. If there were, it is still protected information. I am not sure that it could be protected this long, however, whether he is deceased or alive.
I also learned through the recent experience in Dallas that a DA can have enormous problems and can hide them for periods of time, because she did keep quite a lot of her personal problems private when she was chosen by the people of Dallas to serve as DA. . As in " Kept her life private" not " Didn't seek treatment" as far as I know.
I learned from the shooting deaths of a DA and his wife that sometimes, elected officials are held to standards which are ridiculously high by unstable people who were rightfully terminated. That unstable people will and can gun down their targets, in this case the DA and the Sheriff, without regard for their own eventual personal outcome. I call that set of circumstances a form of insanity. Not necessarily legal criteria for insanity, but the actions of an insane person to mow down that many people over being fired from a fairly menial job. ( as I see it, it was fairly menial).
Both of the cases I have followed since Ray disappeared involve irrational and cruel acts. There is mental disorder behind each DA's outcome. While that does not mean that his disappearance was voluntary, it does make me wonder and give slightly more credence to needing to get away right then, rather than a few months later, when he would retire.
I keep remembering the court discussion where he told the judge that he would not " be there" for a future planned meeting or hearing.. He was not speaking of a date past his retirement date, but one much closer in. Why did he say that? Maybe a slip up because there were plans known only to him and one other person regarding leave- taking?
IF a person is faced with public humiliation, as the Dallas DA came to find out too late, or if a person is threatened and has reason to take the threat seriously, but doesn't speak out about it, as happened in Texas to the other DA, then doesn't " just leaving it all behind" make a lot of sense for the sake of life and personal safety? If he felt he could protect himself better than those around him in LE could protect him, which I DO believe he thought, then he was smart enough to make a plan and get out, I think.
I believe he would have had to leave the USA through means that involved some possible subterfuge, as his legal name likely could not be used while he was an actively sought missing person,but after that, he was free and clear.
No ties to any office, to any constituency, to any college's scandals and politics, or to an AG that he likely didn't like at all, and may have had great reason to distrust.
Life comes before career, before the love for others, before any other needs, the need and will to live is foremost.
He was smarter than the 2 Texas DAs, I think. I believe that if he had any sense of " I am going to be harmed" or " This is not going to go well for me", he could have left as he was single, was free under the laws of the US constitution to do things his way. If secrecy was called for, we are pretty darned sure that he exercised secrecy and discretion to the utmost.
IF he disregarded threats like many seasoned elected officials learn to do ( My own father had death threats for years and he was a head of a government department which doesn't even deal with the public except to issue statements about the work in progress, usually through a friendly media presence) then I am sure Ray received many threats of harm. My daddy retired exactly when he had planned to for all his career, with 30 years/' service. He retired with honor and with a great deal of positive sentiment and acclaim for the service he had rendered to those who had appointed him to his position. However, because he was only 50 years old, I do not think he had a productive life after retirement. When retirement is the goal of all goals, then nothing comes after it.
Is this what Ray was seeing in his life? A few car trips here and there Patty, who cannot be described as a dynamic and thrill-seeking person. Did he choose the road less traveled, metaphorically, and leave his life behind? I know a lot of posters think this, and I'm not sure, not even today. Thinking about my own daddy, his pressures in public life, his long-standing goal of retirement at the 30 year mark, Ray seems to be or have been looking forward to retirement, but was he really? Did he see what I saw when my daddy retired? A long- active and productive man who parked his body at the house, and had a massive 5 vessel bypass 2-3 years later, and who mainly lived for his wife, his daughter ( to a lesser extent, certainly) and then for a grandchild, but not really living any one day for himself ever?
We know of ONE DAY Ray F. Gricar lived for himself, the day he took off to see the Cleveland Indians play baseball, and his wife at the time, made it into a news event. I'd loathe her too, just for that one thing being blown out of proportion and making news when it was a personal choice and not newsworthy, but did make him look " less than responsible".
Much to think about, from our very varying points of view based on what each of us have seen, have known, and what little we think we do know about Ray Gricar until the day he disappeared, either through a fatal act which left no body, or through a living body and a sharp mind leaving on his own terms. IF there was a great deal of cash waiting for him elsewhere, then surely someone knows this by now and knows where he likely went- where the money was.
I think the events in 2001, in 9/11, may have drastically changed our banking laws, and offshore banking laws to the point where leaving to go to the money was maybe the best or only choice he had IF he had internationally placed liquid assets.
Maybe he planned to return quickly, and something waylaid him. Maybe harm came to him because of the possible large sum of money.
Maybe he was too embarrassed by being in the national media to return, if he had a good alternative place to go and live, and have a full happy life, without Lara and her future being a part of his life. I do not know if all daddies love their daughters as much as mine loved me, but I do not think my daddy would have left me or his grandchild to go anywhere but heaven, when illness took him away.
However, if I had an inkling that either of my parents had been in jeopardy, I would have grieved for my loss of them, but I would have urged them to get to safety no matter what the emotional cost to me. That's what love is. Putting the other person first, putting their safety ahead of personal want if it came to that point when I was an adult ( it didn't).
I would have wanted my daddy to be alive and well more than I would have wanted him in danger and where I could call him, see him twice a year at most because I lived 4000 miles away.. sure. No need to think more than a second about the issue of personal safety vs. selfishness of a family member. I would do what Lara may have done, and let it be.
I don't know if we will ever see this case publicly resolved, but it has been solved, we just don't have the solution at hand. He is either alive and well,having left Lewisburg or elsewhere alive and well, or was killed or otherwise died near April 15, 2005. Death is permanent, coming and going aren't. I don't think there's ever been such a high profile missing persons case other than Jimmy Hoffa's ( for an entirely opposite reason) which had so much attention, and then over the years, died down to absolutely no interest or continued ways to investigate what might have happened or where a body might be located, or in Ray's case, best possible outcome- the whereabouts of a living senior adult now, or just an official statement that he is alive, or he is deceased. Closure. Humans want closure, even if it is horribly final. We know that death comes for all of us some day, and I think most of us rate " He died" near the top of possible outcomes since the beginning.