No one who has ever been the victim or known a victim of child abuse would ever believe that it just doesn't happen in nice families like the Ramseys because they said so. Neither would they minimize the damage or deny the life-long trauma the survivor lives with every day.
Well...they might, but the reasons they would are rather unsavory.
Some people are never going to get it, that's all. They obviously are not aware of how much child abuse goes on in this world. Lucky them. Because for every child abused, there is an abuser, and there are enablers of the abuser. Sadly, they are the reason there are so few consequences and it goes on largely unchecked.
I will never, ever get it. Never. Humans who abuse and refuse to protect children are sub-human, to me. But they're mostly males, and usually known to the child and family, and often are in the family, so they get away with it for so many reasons. My god, if the sexual abuse in the Catholic Church, that was covered up, actively, in even this century, doesn't teach people the truth about the abuse of children, I guess nothing will. It's a dirty little secret that people in general just do not want to admit exists.
If we admit we do not protect our own children--what does that make us?
FACT: JonBenet had prior vaginal trauma, up to 72 hours old or longer. Her hymen was largely missing and the rim of her cervix showed erosion, which indicates it was done over a period of time. The evidence is in the autopsy and is inarguable.
FACT: Someone shoved a paintbrush into JonBenet's vagina the night she was murdered. The evidence is in the autopsy and only arguable as to exactly what was inserted into the child. Since Patsy's paintbrush was part of the crime scene and garrote, and is consistent with the evidence found in the victim's vagina, it's reasonable to conclude that was the instrument used on the child's vagina.
FACT: JonBenet was taken to the doctor numerous times with "vaginitis," which her pediatrician never associated with child abuse or was afraid to do so and let it go as "normal." That would be the pediatrician who--amazingly enough--was then said to be personal friends with...the Ramseys! So much so that he, instead of Patsy's usual doctor, showed up at the Fernie's that day and prescribed "medications" for Patsy to sedate her. How convenient.
FACT: Patsy called that same Dr. Beuf on the 17th (though this date is sometimes stated as the 7th, probably from a transcription which was based on what the transcriber "heard" in a videotape of Patsy's '98 interview) three times in 35 minutes, after office hours. That's the same month of, and if it was the 17th, 8 days before, JonBenet's murder, yet Patsy could not "remember" what it was for.
FACT: JonBenet was coached and dressed inappropriately to elicit winning pageant behavior, including strutting provocatively, wearing makeup and very adult costumes, and performing in that manner frequently. Patsy herself told friend and supporter Pam Archuleta, by Pam's own account, that she was worried about JonBenet "flirting" and being "too friendly." Pam stated to a reporter in a pro-Ramsey article that John and Patsy argued about the pageants, John not approving of them. Patsy and John, however, lied about this to LE when asked if they ever argued. They both said no, they didn't.
How any reasonable person can disconnect these facts when the child was found sexually abused, strangled, and bludgeoned in her own basement, her body staged with duct tape, wrapped in a blanket, and a fake ransom note left to "explain" it, is beyond my comprehension. It's tantamout to saying this is such a nice family, there has to be some other explanation than the obvious. Oh, it was bubble bath! Or she masturbated and what a coincidence she shoved that paintbrush up herself and then was murdered mere minutes later!
Puhleeze. I found out long ago there is no Santa Clause, Easter Bunny, or honor among thieves, either. Sexual abuse is real, it crosses socio-economic boundaries, and it's covered up to escape scandal, shame, and legal accountability. The victim is often blamed by everyone, especially the family who just doesn't want to deal with the problems that arise if the perp is brought to justice and stopped.
Anyone who doesn't know what I am talking about here should do some research with child abuse VICTIMS in mind, not just to find excuses to exhonerate the child abusers.
This my opinion. Period.