I’m guilty of saying that myself but, I knew deep down, they were capable of the crime and were found guilty. Difference is, there is nothing, no part of me, that can see BC committing a murder of someone who he didn’t know, driving almost 3 hours home, and then take own life?!?! No way!! He would of taken his own life immediately or surrendered. He would not take the cowards way out. He faced that option many times but, he knew, I knew, he would never take his own life. A topic we had leaned on each other for support many times over and survived it through. This time would of been no different. What were Buddy’s last text messages, his last phone calls?? Where is the motive?? All four involved lived in Charleston except for Buddy. The only stranger to the group. And he’s guilty?? Not believing it!!
I’m sorry for the loss of your friend, Monkey, I truly am. I extend my sincere condolences to everyone affected by this tragedy.
I’ve gone back and forth on whether or not I should respond to your post because I don’t want to upset you or anyone else here who knew and cared about BC. His family and friends are also victims of this nightmare. But, I’m going to give it a shot and hope that you understand I am just trying to help and I mean no offense.
Simply put, feelings are not facts. Have you ever experienced something and later said, “I would not have believed it if I hadn’t seen it with my own eyes?” Ever had an argument with someone and were so angry that you said things you didn’t mean only to realize later after you calmed down, that you were completely wrong? That’s what I’m getting at.
If you genuinely want sort out the truth, and I believe you do, it’s going to be necessary for you to remove emotion from your thinking. This is a hard thing to do when you care about somebody and it may just be too soon for that, I don’t know. My suggestion would be to take some time to thoroughly process what has happened and then review the facts – only the facts – and don’t try to figure out “why.” “Why?” is often a question that forever remains unanswered.
I would also strongly encourage you and others here who know anyone involved in this case to become a Verified Insider. Many of the things being discussed here such as BC’s military discharge, his daughter, etc. are not anything that has been reported in mainstream media. And, we
want to hear those kinds of things. When you become a VI, you can share stuff like that without a supporting link but for now it is only creating unnecessary work for our moderators.
Another option to share information that can’t be posted on the thread is to use the private conversation feature. You can add up to 21 members and say any darn thing you want.
Once again, here is a link to the verification process:
Verification Process for Professional or Insider Posters