I don't know the ins and outs...but honestly, I have to wonder if it is more simple than we are making it. SM had a lot of sucking up to do, and lets just say the FB pages are an example of throwing out to the world what a happy couple they were. But, shady/unhappy things happen behind closed doors. It could be as simple as TM telling SM how he needed to 'make' up the affair to her. When it didn't work, she didn't feel better, their marriage wasn't better, she decided the only way to make the whole thing disappear was to disappear HE. Lets face it, maybe SM was 'in love' with HE and that is the part that TM couldn't handle. Seems nothing in the sexual side of the world was off limits, but me thinks she tried a little to hard in that area kwim.
Hence, lets get back together, I am leaving my wife etc. But really was a set up, to get HE out of the house and alone.
It seems so simple to me that SM was in a precarious position. He literally has nada. Financially, he would be ruined..nothing is in his name. Family? TM doesn't seem the type that would let SM exercise his rights as a parent. He was looking at a long time of hell where that was concerned imho. The kids too. He has no relationship with his previous nuclear family.
IMO of course.
Kelly