Hi.Long time lurker,first time poster.
Anyways,I have not been able to stop thinking about Tyler.It really tugs at a place in my heart.When I began high school,my long time best friend decided that I wasn't cool enough to hang out with.Instead of saying so,she used all the secrets I had told her against me.Even worse,she took my diary and showed it around our school.Boy,did I feel like I was under a microscope!This may have been how Tyler felt.He no longer felt safe in his room and there was no where on campus he may have felt safe either.The thought in my mind whenever we switched classes was who read my diary.For Tyler,he may have wondered who saw the video.In his postings,he may have tried to make light of the situation or showed that he had things under control.Inside,he may have been scared,depressed,and humiliated.And nowhere in the freshman handbook,does it describe how to handle a situation like this.
I have been reading on other websites that Tyler had a choice and I agree.However,Ravi also had a choice.Did he really need to go to Molly's room and watch what was going on?Moreso,did Ravi have to post about it too?Once,Ravi made those choices,he then accepted any culpability that was to follow.Ravi made the choice to humiliate his room mate.His alternative could have been just to give Tyler privacy.Or if he felt uncomfortable with his room mate,he had a choice of talking to an RA.
Another thought I have is for not knowing Tyler all that long,Ravi should never have pulled a stunt such a this.It has been my philosophy to treat everyone with respect because you don't know what battles the other person has faced in life.
Even if Ravi had known Tyler for years this stunt is unacceptable on any level.This is not a prank.Speaking of Ellen,she has a monologue in which she talks about the phrase "just kidding".She uses it in various ways and at the end she says that if it's a joke then they should both be laughing.In this case,if it was a prank,then it would be funny to everyone.
A prank or a joke does not make someone fear for their safety.
I agree with Ellen that bullying is an epidemic and that no one is immune from it.To me,this is not an issue because Tyler may have been gay.It is an issue because Tyler was someone in this world.He was a person that had feelings and let those feelings over whelm him.I do not think he was weak for choosing suicide.I think it was the feelings and thoughts that overwhelmed him.He may have felt he did not have had a way out.
Dan Savage's project is brilliant because it does get better.He may be directing those messages at teens who are gay but it is a message for anyone that is being bullied.It does get better.
Sorry so long...thanks for letting me share.