Support Thread: George, Cindy & Lee Anthony

[LolaMoon08]

I pray that when all is said and done that they get on their knees and pray to God and Caylee for forgiveness and without the national media knowing about it. That is the best I can do.

 

[pikermom]

I am so glad to see this thread. Thank you for having compassion and grace. It reminded me to find my own.

Having never been in a situation like this, I have no idea how I might react. I have found their behavior outrageous and over the top. It has left me shaking my head in disbelief at times. They are easy targets and certainly the dysfunction in the family plays into who ICA is today. If she truly has a personality disorder, they are not to blame. They became conditioned to clean up her messes.

However, I believe they did and continue to act out of love for their daughter and granddaughter.

One is gone and they are fighting to save the other (Or they were anyway). I cannot imagine the magnitude of the loss they are experiencing.

I know at times I have defended my children when I shouldn't have, but they are my babies and part of me. It is innate to protect them at all cost. Would I lie and cover up a crime? Doubtful...but again, I have never been in this situation.

I have my personal beliefs that ICA is responsible for this crime. I don't know the reasons, the why's or the how's. But lets never forget the beautiful thing about our country is the presumption of innocence. I am anxious to see the evidence presented at trial. I will ry to step into the role of pseudo juror and set aside what I have heard, read, researched and see if the state presents a solid case beyond a reasonable doubt.

I will take the time tonight to say a prayer for the Anthony family and than God that I don't have to walk a mile in their shoes.

I apologize in advance if this offends anyone, but they are human and deserve our grace.

Thank you again for making me look deeply at myself and how easily I judge.

 

[Hisimage]

At times I have felt sorry for them and have also felt angry at them.

The best I can do is offer up prayers for them and prayers for myself so I will have a more forgiving, caring, compassionate heart.

Okay, so I have written my post several times and end up going on a long rant. I will say that yes, I do feel sadness for them. Why? because I think they are still puzzled and can't figure out where they went wrong with raising ICA. I believe that each time she stole or lied they could not figure it out. I do feel sorry for people who must always blame others for their unhappiness. I really do. Because when you are constantly blaming there is no peace.

I pray and hope that during this trial their eyes are opened to her and her ways. That they can take accountability for their part in the lies and blaming others.
Caylee loved her grandparents I can bet that. I can bet that CA and GA were the only normal she knew. I think they tried to do their best to give her normal.

I know there isn't much sympathy for them by many people. I don't have sympathy for them, just sadness.

 

[scotslass]

Well if i can put KC(they a's actions towards her) to the side and all that has happened since that first 911 call. My heart aches for them.

Caylee loved them 100% and i believe they loved Caylee 100% focusing on that alone they have all the sympathy in the world from me.

So in the spirit of Caylee I will try to give them a clean slate and forgive/forget the rest of the stuff in order to put my support here. I sincerely hope the slate remains clean and they can handle doing the right thing throughout this trial.

****To clarify i don't mean by not supporting their daughter through this I mean by not throwing innocent people under the bus and participating in the obstruction of justice by lying in doing so.****

 

[Reality Orlando]

When it comes to how they've dealt with KC, I too get angry.

But with Caylee? I believe they loved her very much. I often remember the neighbors who said they saw GA walking with Caylee through the neighborhood frequently. Picturing that in my mind breaks my heart.

:rose: Caylee :rose:

I've spoken to George. He's a very broken man. He LOVED Caylee. If you'd had a chance to really talk Caylee with George, you'd see the huge hole her death left in his life. No matter what he does or how he acts, he loved that baby with his whole heart as did Cindy. I just can't imagine the enormous pain they are both experiencing. I have a daughter about the same age as KC and I know that no matter what, I could never stop loving her nor wish her condemned to death. I send my prayers to them both.

 

[OneLostGrl]

Cindy and George,

You may have made mistakes in raising your child, in covering up evidence of her guilt but it's never too late to get well. She is gone from your home, from your daily lives.. no more lying for, going broke from or walking on eggshells around your child.. This is a perfect time to get help, to work toward getting healthy and to deal with your grief. There is nothing wrong with continuing to love your daughter even if she is guilty of this crime but everything is wrong with continuing to enable and residing in her fantasy world. You can have a good life- you can create a good life for yourselves. YOU didn't do this, you didn't murder your granddaughter, your daughter did- it's time to stop accepting all of her consequences as if you are one person. I am praying you both come to terms with your reality and will begin to move forward toward a happy, healthier future.

 

[Reality Orlando]

I am somewhat torn when it comes to them. When I listen to the 911 calls and the early LE interviews, I see clearly the love they had for Caylee and the extreme pain they were feeling. And for that I have a lot of compassion.

I hope that if the speeding bus comes towards them they will do the right thing, and move out of the way and stand up for CAYLEE.

It's all because Cindy took the initiative to find her grand daughter that we are here tonight.

 

[pikermom]

It's all because Cindy took the initiative to find her grand daughter that we are here tonight.

This is the most profound post I have read tonight. She was trying in her own way to hold her daughter accountable for her actions. I don't believe she had an inkling of what was really going on.

I just posted in another thread something along the lines of how powerful denial is.

Cindy made the call, she started the ball rolling. She wanted her granddaughter back.

If we listen to those 911 calls you can hear that Cindy had no clue what was going on and was terrified for her granddaughter. So again I certainly do have empathy for this family. I will not judge their parenting, they did the best they could with what they had emotionally. and IF ICA is truly a sociopath, who among us could parent one better? As parents we want to believe in our children. But at the end of the day, she was putting Caylee first by making that call.

 

[Brattigirle]

I would love to give my support to George. I pray for God to be with you George, you have a long hard road ahead of you.

 

[TorisMom003]

Honestly I am torn as to what I should feel for Cindy and George. On one hand I wish that I could feel some sympathy or even empathy for them. Then on the other hand I remember their behavior and how horrible this could be for another family. When Cindy and George retrieved the car on that day they both knew what the smell meant. They knew that Casey was fine, so it couldn't have been her that had died. They weren't positive about Caylee though so Cindy fought in order to check and make sure she was ok. I personally believe that if Casey had managed to show Cindy that Caylee was fine that things would have been swept under the rug. That Cindy would have never reported the smell from the car. That if someone else had died and was placed in that car that that persons family would have to mourn without any real answers as to what happened to their loved one. For this reason I can't find it in me to feel sympathy or empathy for Cindy and George. To know that they would let another family suffer just to protect Casey tells me that they do not want nor deserve anyones sympathy. I just wish they had done the right thing for the past almost 3 years. Hopefully they can correct some of their wrongdoings during the trial by finally standing up for the true victim in all of this ~ Caylee.

 

[GutFeeling!]

I have often tried to imagine how they are dealing with this. I adore my sons, they are my world. My eldest gave me a gorgeous Grandson, Jaxon. He was born with cystic fibrosis and is the most adorable child on earth that came out fighting, and continues to fight daily.

If any parent has had to go through anything, it is my son.

That is why I could never understand how Caylee could ever have been 'in the way.'

When I saw the pictures of GA with Caylee, it was like looking at my son with his grandad. My father developed a smile when my kids were born that I had never seen in my life. CA seems hardenned, probably because of the hardships she has had with her daughter ... and that saddens me. Grandkids are supposed to be the ones you never see enough of and then they go home at night lol I feel part of the way she is is because she never got to be Grandma ... more like mum.

This is going to be hard for them all. One day CA will realize where she went wrong ... I hope they get through the pain.

If anything happened to my grandson, there would be a murder trial ... but my son wouldn't be around to see it lol

 

[pikermom]

Have you raised a sociopath? If we compare Lee and ICA who had the same parents, what could be the difference? Maybe not parenting styles but the child themselves. A personality disorder is not treatable and is not caused by poor parenting. They literally have no conscious...none.

God forbid someone micro inspect my parenting....I am far from perfect but love my children with every fiber of who I am. I am thankful none of my kids appear to be sociopaths.

Disclaimer: If she does have the dx of sociopath, I don't believe it is a mitigating factor. I also believe if she is found guilty and a sociopath she needs to serve life imprison without parole because she will commit other crimes and harm everyone she comes in contact with. However, her age may have contributed to an impulsive act as a sociopath, doubtful she would ever kill again.

Correct me if I am wrong, but I don't believe the state or the defense is presenting psychiatric evidence.

And let me reiterate, i am going to try to act as a arm chair juror and but all preconceived notions aside to really look at the evidence presented. this is my personal challenge for myself.

Those jurors have a heavy task at hand, I am not sure I would want to sit on that jury and hold that responsibility.

Sorry for the rant...nothing personal. Just trying to find some grace for the Anthony's.

 

[Wescott]

I believe they love Caylee and they love ICA and all I feel for them is sadness. Sad that they can't or won't face the truth and sad that starting tomorrow they are going to hear and see things that they should never have to hear and/or see. Reality is going to smack them in the face, hard. I have a son who was incarcerated for 16 years, I have sat in the court stone faced and listened to the prosecutors talk about my child and his crimes. I love him and I will always be there for him. Would I lie, point fingers at others and try and cover up his crimes? Not a chance.

I hope they will find peace at some point in their lives but until they are open, honest and accepting of the truth, they will never find it. Its going to be a long, hard road for the a's.

 

[Brattigirle]

I feel alil bad that I didn't say something for Cindy.

Cindy, I pray that you accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.

 

[RoseTree]

This was my twitter status today. I'm not saying that I have the answers but I do know that it's often much easier to ignore issues than face them painfully. I resolve to do the different with my 1 and 3 year old. I hope that I can sustain the marathon pace and successfully do so with whatever obstacles we face.

I pledge to do the what I know to be right for my kids, instead of what is easy.

Not to make this about me, but I think that CA made things easy for iCA. Sociopath or not, this didn't help.

 

[milliac]

This is the most profound post I have read tonight. She was trying in her own way to hold her daughter accountable for her actions. I don't believe she had an inkling of what was really going on.

I just posted in another thread something along the lines of how powerful denial is.

Cindy made the call, she started the ball rolling. She wanted her granddaughter back.

If we listen to those 911 calls you can hear that Cindy had no clue what was going on and was terrified for her granddaughter. So again I certainly do have empathy for this family. I will not judge their parenting, they did the best they could with what they had emotionally. and IF ICA is truly a sociopath, who among us could parent one better? As parents we want to believe in our children. But at the end of the day, she was putting Caylee first by making that call.

I've enjoyed your posts tonight pikermom. Those 911 calls were pure emotion. I truly cannot imagine what they have gone through.

It's interesting how parents are so often to blame. I think they did the best they could with her, and it's not always upbringing.

It may not be popular opinion, but I have to think would a sweet innocent 3 year old really want her mommy's death? perhaps that is the perspective of the A's and they took the road to save their daughters life. However, Shame on ICA and defense team for putting them through this agony.

 

[gmt]

I think if things weren't so bad in the A house and apparently for quite along time you would have seen support from both sides of their own families, even when we all were lead to believe Caylee was missing. Support would be there for anyone going thru this if not for the many actions that was done in this case.

 

[Zoe Bogart]

I have often tried to imagine how they are dealing with this. I adore my sons, they are my world. My eldest gave me a gorgeous Grandson, Jaxon. He was born with cystic fibrosis and is the most adorable child on earth that came out fighting, and continues to fight daily.

If any parent has had to go through anything, it is my son.

That is why I could never understand how Caylee could ever have been 'in the way.'

When I saw the pictures of GA with Caylee, it was like looking at my son with his grandad. My father developed a smile when my kids were born that I had never seen in my life. CA seems hardenned, probably because of the hardships she has had with her daughter ... and that saddens me. Grandkids are supposed to be the ones you never see enough of and then they go home at night lol I feel part of the way she is is because she never got to be Grandma ... more like mum.

This is going to be hard for them all. One day CA will realize where she went wrong ... I hope they get through the pain.

If anything happened to my grandson, there would be a murder trial ... but my son wouldn't be around to see it lol

I think you've said a lot here. Those of us who've had to take care of ill children and grandchildren, putting their needs above all else, and some of us who've lost our precious children, could never understand what Casey did (allegedly) to Caylee and how Cindy has reacted to it. Instead of crying for her beloved defenseless grandchild, she sided with the alleged murderer and accused many others. It's unconscionable what Cindy has done to others and how she has ignored the true victim.

On the other hand, I do believe George is in an enormous amount of pain and he did tell what he knew to the Grand Jury, so I give him a lot of credit for that.

That's all I'm going to say about this so I don't ruin the thread.

 

[Reality Orlando]

I believe they love Caylee and they love ICA and all I feel for them is sadness. Sad that they can't or won't face the truth and sad that starting tomorrow they are going to hear and see things that they should never have to hear and/or see. Reality is going to smack them in the face, hard. I have a son who was incarcerated for 16 years, I have sat in the court stone faced and listened to the prosecutors talk about my child and his crimes. I love him and I will always be there for him. Would I lie, point fingers at others and try and cover up his crimes? Not a chance.

I hope they will find peace at some point in their lives but until they are open, honest and accepting of the truth, they will never find it. Its going to be a long, hard road for the a's.

I have no intention of smacking anyone!

 

[pikermom]

I've enjoyed your posts tonight pikermom. Those 911 calls were pure emotion. I truly cannot imagine what they have gone through.

It's interesting how parents are so often to blame. I think they did the best they could with her, and it's not always upbringing.

It may not be popular opinion, but I have to think would a sweet innocent 3 year old really want her mommy's death? perhaps that is the perspective of the A's and they took the road to save their daughters life. However, Shame on ICA and defense team for putting them through this agony.

Thank you! I don't post often because I do have empathy and I believe in our justice system. Even if she is guilty, if the state does not prove the case she gets to walk.I would hate that if she were guilty but hate even more the thought of innocent people put to death or die in prison. I would rather see a handful of guilty people go free to keep our amazing justice system in place.

I am sure I will be flamed for my outspokenness tonight, but I needed to be heard and appreciate you reading with an open mind.

Peace to all of you tonight. Lets try to be kind to one another as we watch the culmination of the trial and case in which we all have an emotional investment in.

It is a wonderful thing to listen to another perspective with an open mind. I thank you for affording me that opportunity.