I have ALWAYS had empathy for the grandparents. This fact made me very unpopular among many circles that I travel in. I also admit that my life is not so different from the A's life. Sadly we have many things in common even sharing the month and the year of what I call.. the great black sadness.
I will not go into great detail about our loss or my families dysfunction for that is not what this thread or post is about. Except for me to stress that I KNOW fist hand what it is like to CO-Parent grandchildren with a mentally unstable daughter.I know the underlying tensions that CO-parenting wreaks upon all parties involved. Sadly I know the utter soul crushing pain of loosing a much loved Co parented grand child. Though I was not,thank GOD,thrust into a media frenzy.
I have always pointed out What the heck would YOU do if in CA's shoes?
If,God forbid, the same exact thing happened in your family Would you
Scream at you daughter I KNOW you have killed my grand baby!
No I do not think any mother would. At least not at first.
I have always ,from the very start, prayed for CA and GA. Sometimes for their son too I would send up prayers. I will continue ,for the rest of my life, to send prayers to this family.
I am SO VERY SORRY that your personal grief is an open book for ALL the world to peer into. I pray that soon you will not have to be so invaded. I pray that peace will settle around each of you like your favorite soft blanket and cradle you in warmth and love as sweet as an innocent child. I pray that you can still fill the love of your grand daughter. The love you have for her and the love she has for you is the string that binds you FOREVER. I pray that you KNOW this and find solace in that sweet fact. I pray that you are each able to forgive yourself. It is SO easy to beat yourself up with the I should have,I could have and why didn't I's. I detest that part of the grieving process. I pray that your mind is able to cast these untrue negative self destructive thoughts far way from you & that they never return . I pray that you heal and that the deep scars that you will always carry with you will only serve to remind you of LOVE. For if you did not love your daughter and your grand baby SO much,, well then this terribly tragic time would not have bothered you at all.
I pray that you are able to realize that there is a reason for EVERYTHING good and bad. I pray you dont drive yourself to the brink of madness wanting/trying to figure out the reason, for we will never know UNTIL it is our time to meet the maker. I pray that you feel the love and understanding from 100's if not thousands of perfect strangers that send their positive and uplifting thoughts to you.