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It's sad that this is really going to put a huge strain on his kids lives.
Teacher, 41, resigns, leaves wife, moves in with 18-year-old student
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It's sad that this is really going to put a huge strain on his kids lives.
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And with all the scrutiny...will she be proven to be the "one and only' girl that he has had questionable relationships with?
I have a feeling there have been others.
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One possibility of proving this might be in the 8,000 texts and any emails between them. I'm sure that at some point something was said about the relationship, where they were going to meet, or what they were doing. There is also a possibility that there might be pictures somewhere. What teen doesn't like to get pictures of their "boyfriend" even if the can't show them to anyone?
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Yes, this type of stuff happens quite often and to believe otherwise is a little naive IMO. I know quite a few people who, as adults, look back on rumors of this nature they heard as high school students and wish that they had gone to an adult about them. I wonder if some of the explanation behind this is a sort of bystander effect-- they think that so many people have heard the rumors, and let's not forget that they are only rumors, that surely someone else has told an adult.
ETA-- I forgot to add this part. The girl and the teacher were interviewed on Nightline tonight. She said that her father died when she was 9, which speaks volumes in my mind. Also, they were seated next to one another and anytime the man was speaking, the girl seemed to be holding back laughter. This was especially evident when he spoke of her mother and how mad she is. He stated that her mother had threatened to kill him and the girl literally smiled and then caught herself, looked down and wiped the smile off of her face. It was very bizarre. They said that more of the interview will be on GMA this morning if anyone wants to catch it.
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He seemed to be a very immature 41 year old man. I don't know if that is how he truly is or if he is trying to seem younger for her! But after watching the interview (link below)- this song kept running thru my head!!:innocent:
http://abcnews.go.com/nightline
[video=youtube;tGtSpsYURAQ]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tGtSpsYURAQ[/video]
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LOL @ that song running through your head!!
He does come off as very immature. He also totally gives me the creeps.
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Saw it on the news. Creep- O. (Shakes head in anger) This happens more than we hear about it and often.
I feel sorry for her family and for her when she wakes up somewhere down the line and realizes she wasted her youth with an old man who took advantage of her.
I know a guy who dates/ (engaged) only young women, (girls). It is a sickness and I don't for the life of me understand it on any level.
The man I know would date 16-23 year olds at age 35. First off, aside from the legal and moral implications, what the heck does anyone have in common with a baby? It sickens me. I noticed when they are confronted, they make excuses. They are plain and simple- PIGS..
There is not much we can do about it on the outside but all I have to add is, "It should not happen in a professional capacity!" This should not happen at all. (should is the operative word) He should not have gotten involved to begin with. Where are the boundaries we once had in place in society?
Hoping this ends soon. And, I also doubt this was his First time stepping out on his wife and also being with a young BABY....
Once again, got the creeps.
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All of these older men (and some older women) who fall for such younger women (and men) have a rude awakening coming. Time waits for no man (or woman) and when gravity takes hold baby won't want to play anymore.:what:
I could understand if she was like 25 and a former student of his and he was not married etc. but an 18 year old and a 41 year old man who up and leaves his wife and kids for her......... no way.
Prime news said that classmates had taken photos of her sitting on his lap.
That is just creepy.
This also reminds me of the story of the 16 year old who married her 40 something year old teacher.
http://www.wwaytv3.com/high_school_coach_resigns_marries_teen/06/2007
Prime news said that classmates had taken photos of her sitting on his lap.
That is just creepy.
This also reminds me of the story of the 16 year old who married her 40 something year old teacher.
http://www.wwaytv3.com/high_school_coach_resigns_marries_teen/06/2007
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I'm glad I'm not only one with this question. It would be little different if the mother can prove of sexual abuse before she turned 18, but until then...duh. Just a stupid man and young girl prolly making horrible decisions. Happens EVERYDAY.
I do feel bad for his wife and children....the mother of the girl...and the girl herself when she gets older. Oh, yeh, and her so called boyfrend that was being used. She's dropped out months before her graduation.....and he no longer has a job. How bright of a beginning is that?
Guess Baby, baby, baby and Justin Bieber are on his Ipod and among his favorites now. LOL
ETA: News worthy, imo. Missing teacher, Laurie May, from the Chicago area. Took off with 3 toddlers 4, 2, 1 and her 17 yr old former student. (Laurie was just fired from a teaching job she had only held for 6 mo. at the teen's school.)
IL IL - Laureth "Laurie" May, 29, three kids, & Destiny Gruba, 17, Aurora, 15 Feb 2012 - Websleuths Crime Sleuthing Community
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He would be fired, but he did nothing illegal. Since he turned in his resignation he negated that one. If it can be proven there was sexual abuse before she was 18, he's still in trouble.
***Why did the mother allow him in her house to pack her things?
IMO, it's not his heart he followed. I
Also think it's not his d?ck, which he has probably followed compulsively most of his life. Narcissists follow the "goo goo" because it strokes their fragile ego.
When she quits cooing and playing to his ego, he will be devastated.
Did someone say his wife has a young baby?? Whaddaya bet this teen got jealous and competitive over this and worked to "take him away" from his family. I can't wait to see HER pregnant with him out screwing around on HER. (well, not really, I wish he would go to prison and she would go home and resume what's left of her childhood, but thats not going to happen, especially if she's been his toy since she was 14. Even if she chased him mercilessly, he was in a "position of trust". Because of that, by law, if he knew of another man his age messing with her, he'd have to report it to Child Protective Services. These teachers KNOW the law; they learn it in mandatory continuiing Ed classes over and over again)
Gravity takes hold on everyone and people of the same age divorce every day. I am not sure that if I were this girl's mother I would want to make it so public. What is that going to accomplish?
ETA: Btw, I taught foster parent certification classes SPECIFICALLY on dealing with girls who are provocative towards foster family members, particularly the fathers, WHY they do this, and how to RESPOND to it.
ALSO, I don't tell this story often, as I have HAPPILY moved on with my life, but my college-teaching husband of 20 years had an affair with a 17 year old student. So I've seen this game from both sides of the fence. I STRONGLY believe this man abused this vulnerable young girl with emotional issues (even if SHE came on to HIM) and until we put these people innprison for it, others will continue to follow suit. This destroys lives, but keeping narcissistic sociopaths from destroying others around them for their own entertainment is a hard hard job.
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Beyond everything else that doesn't make sense here, and what on earth could she see in him, the guy is really ugly.
Funny how they magically developed feelings for each other as soon as she turned 18. Puh-leeze.
Funny how they magically developed feelings for each other as soon as she turned 18. Puh-leeze.
Maybe making it public was a last resort. This poor widowed mother may have not had the strong support she needed to be able to save her daughter by herself. At least she is showing her love, care, and heightened concern by leaving no stone unturned in her efforts to show her youthful (and therefore blinded) daughter how WRONG it was of this 40-something year old man to twist her young life so badly.
So now what does this couple do? Does she flip burgers to pay the rent? Do they go on the public dole and play video games day and night while living on food stamps, housing subsidies, Medicaid, etc? Are we, collectively, content to support them AND their future offspring? I'm curious as to whether he will be able/willing to create a new career for himself as his future in education or ANY work related to "position of trust" with children is gone.
Bless this girl's mother. I hope she survives the stress and years from now I hope her daughter loves her for the hard parenting she is doing now to save her future.
Love you Steely, hope you know that. But I really won't be able to sleep until I make this comment:
To simply move this predator to another school because this was only "rumor" at that point would be akin to the Catholic church continually moving child molesting priests around rather than investigating and stopping the crimes.
Moving them around only gives them a larger pool of fresh, unsuspecting victims.
