laserdisc10
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It is possible she had no women friends .. we've all met women like this, like maybe her ex husband was like her only friend or something?
It's pretty clear that TM has major issues of low self esteem
and probably (who knows) seriously unresolved sibling rivalry problems
Not too bright, so that doesn't help
Naïve. A dreamer. And in a twisted way, an idealist
Allison was miles above the pair of them for smarts. Allison was far more intelligent and flexible. Allison had dreams too, who doesn't. She'd committed to marriage and family - given up everything for it. She came from a family where her parents married for life, so she probably believed anything less was 'failure'. So she tried everything she knew - tried every possible way to resolve things; self-improvement, acceptance, agreeableness, stay home with the kids and go back to work. Gave him his freedom - reined him in. Tried talking one on one - looked outside for help. No two ways about it, Allison wrote the manual as far as trying to pull things back together. She submitted, she fought. She tried to diminish herself for the sake of his ego, and later stood up to him and began regaining her lost self. No one could ever accuse that woman of rigidity or of running from the facts
What a waste of her efforts, energy and time !
It's a tragedy being played out all over the place with good people trying to find a way to make it work with narcissists
Wouldn't have been long before Allison would have taken the only step left (and it's the step advocated by the experts) which would have been to get the hell away from him
Wish she'd cancelled that insurance policy. But how could someone like Allison get her head to a place where she would imagine she'd be killed for cash? Such a thought would have been a foreign language to her. Her mind wouldn't have known how to go there or think it of anyone -- for the simple reason she could never have done it, nor would she believe he could or would