Nehemiah
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Ames said:Okay...if your daughter was MISSING...and you found her obviously dead in the basement with her wrists tied...(and a garotte around her neck....yeah, yeah...I know....JR said that he didn't notice that....yeah RIGHT!)...would you scream "I FOUND HER!".....or would you scream bloody murder...."OH MY GOD...MY POOR BABY!" And be inconsolable, and hysterical??? I just can't imagine someone "stumbling" across their dead child, and then yelling upstairs..."I FOUND HER!" Like she was hiding in the closet or something....
I don't know for sure what I'd do. In situations where I have been under extreme stress, I have sometimes found myself doing exactly the opposite of what I thought I would have done.
I posted this before...one of my good friends lost her young daughter in an accident. Just about a week or so before the accident, she was watching a movie (Deep End of the Ocean) and she commented that if something like that happened to one of her kids, she would react in the same way (mental/emotional breakdown), if not worse. I distinctly remember her saying that she would have to be sedated. When her daughter was tragically killed, she acted the exact opposite of what she had told everyone just the week before. A few months later she commented to me that she would have never believed that she would hold up the way she did.
I always think about this when I think about the Ramseys and their behavior. I think grief is shown in many forms and no two people are necessarily alike in their grieving states.