Lux et Veritas
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I personally don't think fame and money had/has anything to do with it .. there are plenty of ordinary Joe Bloggs out there who are exactly the same as him .. they are just Jekyll and Hyde characters, that's all, and they seem to be born like it. The nice side of them is just really nice (not necessarily in a smarmy, creepy way .. but just a natural way, just like how you see Pistorius in that vid there) and it is what attracts you to them .. you can see exactly why Reeva would've been attracted to him, and in his 'nice' mode, I think he's absolutely gorgeous .. but when he (or people like him) turn then you'd better watch out because they are nasty as hell, but of course, by then it's too late, you're already under their spell ..
Nice mode is exactly right, Jay.
These kind of people know how to flip a switch whenever it serves their purpose - and for narcissists its all about total CONTROL.
Everything is wonderful as long as everything goes their way. When it doesnt, the instant transformation of such a person from nice to red rage can be downright terrifying. It really is like two different people. They eventually rule the relationship through constant, subtle manipulation, overt intimidation and direct threats of many kinds, including violence. No abuser ever started off a relationship by abusing - it is a process to first gain the victims love and trust.
From my personal experience as a domestic abuse survivor (so totally naive and trusting at age 18), I literally never saw that first, vicious slap coming. I was stunned into total shock. (The reason for the slap? During a rain storm, his car was stuck in deep mud and we couldnt get it out.)
Nel brilliantly defended using Reevas recent Whatsapp messages as proof she was sometimes afraid of OP, as well as confused, angry and unhappy (directly supporting the argument-shooting scenario) by quoting psychologist Leonard Carrs perfect analogy:
90% of the body may be healthy but its the 10% cancerous part that you better pay attention to.