sophiebelle
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Personally, I think it's a huge mistake for couples in the midst of divorce to continue living together. It's a known fact that the most dangerous time for a woman is when she is trying to leave a marriage because of control, or abuse, issues.
It's not clear that there was abuse, but I do think that there were control issues. That is, Karen was attempting to leave a marriage with her two daughters, leaving the husband with all the stuff that he thought made for a happy marriage. She was willing to give up her comfortable country-living lifestyle to earn money by cleaning abandoned houses, downsize to apartment living with her two daughters, and start a new life from scratch. That speaks volumes.
The courts in TN should recognize that even though abuse and control issues may not be spelled out in divorce documents, they are often there - just beneath the surface. It really doesn't take a genius to understand that if a marriage is falling apart, there are some serious problems between the two parties. TN laws should be modified to better financially protect women that have filed for divorce. The cases should be heard within 2 days of the papers being filed, and financial support should be immediately granted to the party that has been dependent throughout the marriage and who is leaving the marriage. If the courts want to take their time to more carefully review the documents (like a month or two), the orders can be modified at that time.
link for "most dangerous time" during divorce:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/104990050...life…Find-the-best-lawyer…Manage-your-emotion
I was married to an emotional abuser, who got worse after he found a girlfriend. I could not bear the thought of moving in with my mother, who thought anybody getting a divorce was going to hell. I had 3 children to take care of. So I stayed there sleeping on the sofa for 6 months. Now I don't even know how I stayed one day. But when he was having a screamfest in the driveway at my son, I saw myself (in my mind), run over him with my car and reverse it to hit him again, I knew I had to go. I packed up while he was at work and went to mom's to hear her rants. I was not going to jail over an idiot, nor leave my children with no mother. So I know firsthand how nasty it can be behind closed doors. My co-workers never had a clue that I was close to a breakdown. I agree with you 100%.