wenwe4
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Christmas 2007 - JA in Yreka w/family . . . . she called TA excited and ask him to call back . . . he doesn't call . . . she needs to remember this - can't write it in journal but this is one thing he does to upset her.
He purchases nice gifts for her Xmas - hymnal with her name in gold letters, calendar of 1000 places (important to their relationship) . .. sweater - even though he has very little money
she is starting to pull back - very much involved in relationship. Crossing bottom lines . . . with battered women in shelter and private practice . . . they impune their own integrity every time they cross their own bottom lines.
one woman she worked with very successful in own business took her over 1 year to share with ALV what happened . . . .ashamed, felt stuck, . . . . this woman married in 30's successful in their own business . . .had a cat who was her baby . . . . her husband threw cat across the room . . . he would never do that again . . stressed ut and having a bad day.
over time this woman lost who she was . . come hom and food dish was empty - never happened whn she was single . . one day cat's paw's cut . . . . said dropped glass . . . one day he took her cat away and never saw cat again.
for every dv relationship . . . their bottom line is compromised .. . they look like incest survivors in taking the blame (JA is attempting to fake tears? - IMO)
sexual intimacy and keep doing it - not because you want to but that is what keep relationship . .. but not what you want you still do it - we lose part owho we are . . .it is gradual . .. throw frog in pot boiling water . . . frog jump out . .. put frog in water and turn heat to boil - the frog will boil as it is gradual.
People sexual compromise act like incest survivors - blame self for abuse directed @ them . . . even when they are adults . . . . .they look @ it with adult lens. . .. people don't wan to talk about sex relations in public venue.
text messages between JA an TA reviewed by ALV
exhibit #440
group of text messages between the 2 . . . start end of 2007? . . .. actually start 2006 . . .til June 2008 . . .
text messages in beginning of Jan . . . TA text and saying I love you Jodi. . . objection
nice loving emails . . . TA starts them . . . JA is responding . .. . significant about them?
they have good times in their relationship -it is not just a blemish . . . good periods of time and caring, show love,ability to connect - normal positive periods of time in the relationship. .
act like a couple? . . .yes they do . . . talk about swap cars . . . normal part can we swap cars today . . . the normalcy of it . . .what people do in relationship . . . becomes important to see.
Jan 21, 2008 - time there is a 2nd physical aggressive act . . . . tell us about that incident?
objection - leading
approach
He purchases nice gifts for her Xmas - hymnal with her name in gold letters, calendar of 1000 places (important to their relationship) . .. sweater - even though he has very little money
she is starting to pull back - very much involved in relationship. Crossing bottom lines . . . with battered women in shelter and private practice . . . they impune their own integrity every time they cross their own bottom lines.
one woman she worked with very successful in own business took her over 1 year to share with ALV what happened . . . .ashamed, felt stuck, . . . . this woman married in 30's successful in their own business . . .had a cat who was her baby . . . . her husband threw cat across the room . . . he would never do that again . . stressed ut and having a bad day.
over time this woman lost who she was . . come hom and food dish was empty - never happened whn she was single . . one day cat's paw's cut . . . . said dropped glass . . . one day he took her cat away and never saw cat again.
for every dv relationship . . . their bottom line is compromised .. . they look like incest survivors in taking the blame (JA is attempting to fake tears? - IMO)
sexual intimacy and keep doing it - not because you want to but that is what keep relationship . .. but not what you want you still do it - we lose part owho we are . . .it is gradual . .. throw frog in pot boiling water . . . frog jump out . .. put frog in water and turn heat to boil - the frog will boil as it is gradual.
People sexual compromise act like incest survivors - blame self for abuse directed @ them . . . even when they are adults . . . . .they look @ it with adult lens. . .. people don't wan to talk about sex relations in public venue.
text messages between JA an TA reviewed by ALV
exhibit #440
group of text messages between the 2 . . . start end of 2007? . . .. actually start 2006 . . .til June 2008 . . .
text messages in beginning of Jan . . . TA text and saying I love you Jodi. . . objection
nice loving emails . . . TA starts them . . . JA is responding . .. . significant about them?
they have good times in their relationship -it is not just a blemish . . . good periods of time and caring, show love,ability to connect - normal positive periods of time in the relationship. .
act like a couple? . . .yes they do . . . talk about swap cars . . . normal part can we swap cars today . . . the normalcy of it . . .what people do in relationship . . . becomes important to see.
Jan 21, 2008 - time there is a 2nd physical aggressive act . . . . tell us about that incident?
objection - leading
approach
