missed some testimony - got phone call
how severe choking was? . . she lost consciousness - and woke up a little while later.
where is choking on conflict tactic scale - very high on scale - personal, close up, life threatening, serious form of abuse in ALV opinion - escalation - 1 month difference
oct to jan, jan to mar, mar to april, and intenstity is increasing.
JA said she started to defend self but afraid she would hurt him and stopped. . . . not inconsistent when taken self-defense classs -experience of physical contact most women do not have that kind of experience - uncomfy with hurting someone else
she lost consciousness. . . .
minimizing? . . . JA fair amount of minimizing going on with physical and emotional abuse . . take incident make it less important or significant than it is to others. . . many battered women minimize abuse taken . .
hard to take in something very painful to you - easier to make it less than what it really is . . .what used to be a crime is a misdemeanor . . . nobody ever lay hand on me or call me that is happening and I am not ready to leave relationship - hope they don't go further until they go further- gradual nature one of reasons minimize
protect abusers reputation - or not talk about it all . . . common not to report, not to go to Dr. or LEO . . . detect minimization from her? .. . yes since first time talked with her . . . not seen as abuse . . . . minimize instances . . . .
minimize throughout im's and text messages - she moves on after aggressive and demeaning context of conversation . . she moves on. . .
in April see escalation in violence . . . .seeing more in April . . . April 7, 2008 . . . exhibit #444
he's asking where are you? . . . Holister
. . . . normal conversation
skip to few hours later . . . long text message from TA . . . zooms in to see it on screen . . .just hours prior - normal conversation . . . do not call me or text me anything - he wants info from her . . . what this tirade is about . . . . TA wanted identity of woman come to her resteraunt said TA had a significant relationship with Lisa Andrews . . .
he's talking about her getting that info right away - it takes 15 min and she won't take that time . . . he accuse her of lying . . . . give me info or leave me alone . . . a lie like noother - freaking foolish - screwed up story can't mend it . . . another told her he was in realtion with another woman while in relaton with jody . . . he is upset and angry . . .. turns to threats . . you have til tomorrow - threaten to tell Hughes - in Jan 2007 they loved JA . . . Leslie Udy about all crazy things JA has done. . . fess up or feel his wrath . . . no bad truth - punishment will be better than the lie.
truth nothing else from you until truth . . . after tomorrow - gonna get real bad for you - time to spit it out. . . accuse her of lying about info that is bad about him . . is this true . . he in relation with Lisa Andrews while in relation with JA?
objection
approach
Andrews had relation with TA from 7/07 until ?/08 . . . being in relation with 2 different women . . . Andrews has similar conversation with TA .. . if she listens t other people she will get false info about him . . . now he is upset with JA for her saying I heard something bad about you.
how he words things . . . veiled threats in it . . . sort of non-descript some of them . . . tell people she cares about . . . not sure if he means about sexual stuff . . . talk badly about JA . . . feel the wrath . . . someone says non-descript kind of threats - undermine basic security . . someone you love says these things . . .
he has already kicked her and broken finger . .
objection - not feel MY wrath but feel THE wrath.
make any difference?
choked, kicked, finger broken, slapped across neck/face by one person who says feel the wrath . . . is that abusive? . . . I think it is . . .
battered women in general depends on level of abuse in relationship - history of this in past will have . . .. more meaning . . . it has happened and veiled threat attached to reality.
characterize relationship as abusive still? yes
#445 - texts between TA and JA 4/8/08 - he is talking about her leaving something behind when she moved . . . TA gotten a picture for her - she wanted him to sign it . . .she forgot and left it when packing . . . .
he upset she left it behind . . . thanks a freaking lot for having me sign in ink and then you left . . . always drama with you . . . .she responds . . .doesn't sound like me being dramatic . . call me.
she is sort of coming back @ him - he says do not call back - I am sick of you being childish tactics . . stupid *advertiser censored* way ruining another day . . . will have a genuine dislike for her because she forgot a picture . . . she needs to stop it before he starts seeking revenge . . . kicked, choked and broken finger -
she responds with sorry - pattern she has - he gets upset she apologizes for her behavior. she says have good day - don't worry be happy - she doesn't respond mean or violent way back to him.
he responds with another long text . . . tells her rude and inconsiderate to forget picture .. he goes on and on . . . talk about trying to save his house . . . doesn't believe she is sorry . . .if she was - wouldn't continue on with this stuff - because she left a picture @ his house . . if he had done same to her - she would cry for weeks.
lots comments of JA being a crier . . . written communication from tA . . . and MM also described her as a crier . . . upset - she cries. . . . cry for weeks.
he talks about give her motivation to quit screwing wth him . . . . choked, kicked, broke finger, slapped and hit.
she responds in text . .. she apologizing again and trying to deescalate situation - distance clears her head a bit . . . she is now away from him in California . . . she trying to calm situation down . .when he upset and angry . . . 2 things consistent . . .one is apologizing and being sorry and other is being sexual.
how good she feels that they are separated - thinks it better for both of them . .. tell him she loves him . . happy & thankful . . . .nice to him . . .blame self for leaving picture - one last ditsy thing . . .. she writes him to thank him for calling very nice of him . .
seems tirade over based upon text messages.
