I have always given ALV the benefit of the doubt, but this is beyond the pale. She is too caught up in wanting to be right, to admit to obvious truths. Just because TA continued to have a relationship with JA after she was exhibiting stalking behaviors doesn't mean he wasn't afraid. How many of her female victims have probably been spied on by abusive boyfriends, had boyfriends who have followed them, yet kept a relationship with them? Wasn't that what her book was about? Why abuse victims don't leave?
Great point!