Page one of this thread I stated abuse isn't about anger, but abusers use anger to intimidate victims to establish and maintain control.
So many of Travis' actions are either inconsistent with an abuser or even a controlling person its laughable (and honestly dangerously scary in reality) that LaViolette can amass he is an abuser from his written exchanges alone. How much control do you think an abuser would really have from a thousand mile distance?
Uh huh. Exactly. And that's why if Travis were, he'd likely have asked Jodi to move in with him in Mesa, perhaps even have proposed, within a couple of months. When she left Mesa, he very likely would have gone ballistic, at least calling her many, many times every day - finding any way he possibly could of 'checking' up on her. (5 years after I divorced my abuser, he conned his own mother into printing and mailing him a picture of my house in England to him in prison, with a sob story of how he didn't even know where 'his' kids were living.)
That's part of the pattern of an abuser. And it, in this case, is absent on Travis' part.
