Try to have some compassion

[miss_vegemite]

Again, they don't see yet......what we see. They will - after Caylee is found. God bless them.

So sad, but true. They are trying to hang on as hard as they can and to see it all crumbling around them, is sad.. They not only lose their precious grandbaby, but their daughter as well.

 

[txsvicki]

I feel compassion for the Anthony's because they have lost their grand daughter. I'm trying to see their actions with common sense and not using my own life experiences and emotions decide why they are responding a certain way. The family knows more of what is going on than anyone else and they have their own reasons for what they do. It won't matter much anyway because it's going to all be up to LE and those who decide what charges to go with.

 

[Baznme]

I can't speak for the majority, but for myself, I am not against them. All I want them to do is make thier daughter be responsible by stepping back and allowing her to clean up her own mess, and stop lying to cover her. That is all I want. I think most people are angry with Casey and she just happens to be staying with her mother, so that anger is crossing over to Cindy for allowing her to stay there.

Think of it this way, say Joseph Duncan was bonded out, you know the Groene murders/kidnapping/rape, and somebody said he could stay with them while out on bond, don't you think the public would be angry with that person allowing him to stay with them, after what he has done?

I understand what you are saying but, this is what the court set up. She was residing there before any discovery of Caylee missing and it was there she was supposed to return. You and I need to consider the fact that both Casey and her mother each had to get an attorney due to the circumstances. I am fairly sure that they were both instructed not to discuss certain things amongst each other because this investigation is ongoing and implications would come up in court. I don't know. I just have a hard time knowing that Cindy can't even have a Tylenol PM to sleep with or a glass of wine to relax for 5 minutes because one of the conditions of Casey being there is there is to be no medication, drugs or alcohol. How do her parents get through a day? How do they keep one thought straight from another? They are exhausted. I'm just trying to get the dogs off for a while. Let them catch their breath and they will begin to see all those things that we've been seeing.

 

[miss_vegemite]

I can't speak for the majority, but for myself, I am not against them. All I want them to do is make thier daughter be responsible by stepping back and allowing her to clean up her own mess, and stop lying to cover her. That is all I want. I think most people are angry with Casey and she just happens to be staying with her mother, so that anger is crossing over to Cindy for allowing her to stay there.

I know, I think that is what most people expect they should do. I, at times myself, feel exactly the same way as you do. But really, it's easy for us to sit here and judge them, believing we would act differently, but the reality of the situation is, unless we were in their shoes, we don't have a clue how we would react..

 

[CHICANA]

I can't speak for the majority, but for myself, I am not against them. All I want them to do is make thier daughter be responsible by stepping back and allowing her to clean up her own mess, and stop lying to cover her. That is all I want. I think most people are angry with Casey and she just happens to be staying with her mother, so that anger is crossing over to Cindy for allowing her to stay there.

Think of it this way, say Joseph Duncan was bonded out, you know the Groene murders/kidnapping/rape, and somebody said he could stay with them while out on bond, don't you think the public would be angry with that person allowing him to stay with them, after what he has done?

In that case you have solid evidence of a kidnapping, rapes and murders.
The Anthony's haven't seen any reports that show positively that Caylee's dead. What are they supposed to do ? Believe what everybody tells them they should ?
If someone accused of murder is let out on bond I would expect their mother to believe in them when nobody else does.
That's what mothers do. I wouldn't be angry at Joseph Duncan's mother for loving her son more than she worried about what others thought.

 

[ZooMomology]

In that case you have solid evidence of a kidnapping, rapes and murders.
The Anthony's haven't seen any reports that show positively that Caylee's dead. What are they supposed to do ? Believe what everybody tells them they should ?
If someone accused of murder is let out on bond I would expect their mother to believe in them when nobody else does.
That's what mothers do. I wouldn't be angry at Joseph Duncan's mother for loving her son more than she worried about what others thought.

You are a much nicer person than I am. I would understand her love for her son, much like the Hacking murder, but if they would allow that man with the evidence they have on him to stay in their house on bond, I could not do it. I feel that is a slap in the face to the victims.

Anyway, hopefully really soon we will know where Caylee is and Cindy can either be the happiest grandma or can begin her long process of grieving.

 

[Baznme]

Got to go. I'll try to post tomorrow night to give some insight about the seach for Caylee. Thanks to all.

 

[miss_vegemite]

Got to go. I'll try to post tomorrow night to give some insight about the seach for Caylee. Thanks to all.

Good luck Baznme, and I hope all goes well tomorrow.

 

[poco]

Denial is one of the first emotions experienced in a death and the Anthony's are having to deal with more than just the loss of Caylee. Right now they are also having to come to grips with the "death" of their life as they once knew it, even as sick and twisted as their life had been with Casey, she is still their daughter.

All of this has to be very very very hard to grasp.

 

[OkGrace]

Dear Gram2,
First, welcome to Websleuths. Your post is a very powerful one. I am sorry you have this pain in your life. Your experience and willingness to share it helps us understand what the Anthony's are truly going through.

It is frustration that I think many people are feeling. It is so obvious what Casey is all about we would like to think that if, God Forbid, this was our child we would see through the lies and all the other drama that Casey causes.

Yet, you remind us that it is not as easy as we think it is. I can only imagine how most of us would really react in a situation like this.
Chances are we would react in ways similar to the Anthony's.

Thank you for having this board that seems to run more smooth then most.
I am impressed with the moderation.

WS is nice to visit for info without having to look through a bunch of meaningless garbage.

Again thanks!

 

[SUR]

Try to have some compassion for Cindy & George. I'm going to bare my soul here. I have a 39 year old son who lies constantly, is a scammer, a drug addict and an alcoholic, and God knows what else. For years I believed everything he said and defended him. Finally one day I woke up. I severed contact with him a few years ago, but I still worry about him. He's on his third marriage and I've never seen his most recent child. As far as I know, he wouldn't physically hurt his kids, thank God. I don't know how he turned out that way. His sister is the complete opposite and they were raised the same way. It boggles my mind, and hurts my heart. I even moved out of Florida to another state and he has no idea. So, please, don't judge Cindy and George too harshly. They are hurting now, too. They want Caylee back as much as anyone, probably more than anyone.

I so agree with you. This whole situation is a nightmare for them and call me crazy but if I were in their shoes I am sure I would try to believe Caylee is still alive and as a matter of fact I am still hoping she is. We do not know these people nor do we know all the facts and until we do and there is proof Caylee is dead I can't and won't judge them or how they deal with the situation or their feelings. No matter how this turns out they will have to deal with it the rest of their lives. All those who are juding them now will move on with their lives but the Anthony's lives are over as they knew it. Their pain and hurt is so obviuus. They want to believe their daughter and want to believe their granddaughter is alive and yet so many are prejudging them. Casey has not been charged with murder yet people are outside the home calling her a baby killer and assorted disgusting names and what useful purpose does it serve? It does not bring Caylee home, all it does is hurt those who know and love her. It's so easy for some to condemn before they know all the facts but they can't find it in their hearts to show compassion for Cindy and George and I really can't understand that.

 

[moodyblue]

Dear Gram,
I want to thank you for starting this thread.

I have read most all the posts and thought about it some. I decided to pray
that god give the anthonys the strength to endure, and also for myself to unharden my heart a bit.

I truly do not know I react if something like this happened to me.
Right now I am really struggling with anger. In my gut from the time i first learned of this, I felt Caylee was no longer with us . Each day I have kept hoping to hear
that Caylee was found alive and well. Each day that goes by its harder to hold to that little chance.

So I will try to turn my compassion meter up a few notches for these folks.

 

[Love_Mama]

Dear Gram,
I want to thank you for starting this thread.

I have read most all the posts and thought about it some. I decided to pray
that god give the anthonys the strength to endure, and also for myself to unharden my heart a bit.

I truly do not know I react if something like this happened to me.
Right now I am really struggling with anger. In my gut from the time i first learned of this, I felt Caylee was no longer with us . Each day I have kept hoping to hear
that Caylee was found alive and well. Each day that goes by its harder to hold to that little chance.

So I will try to turn my compassion meter up a few notches for these folks.

I agree moodyblue, none of us here would want to walk in Cindy's shoes.
So........I say let it be.

Prayers today that the search team will be successful in finding little Caylee.

xxxxxxxxxoooo
mama
:blowkiss::blowkiss:

 

[Fermi]

Gram2,

Thank you for starting this thread as I agree that G & C deserve our compassion and prayers. I am sorry also for the loss of your son...there are many kinds of loss in this world and they are equally painful.

One of the things that bothers me about cases like this is how outsiders take it so personally, as if something were being done to them. I understand the frustration and the anxiety about wanting to find this precious child...about wanting the truth known...but I do not understand the animosity towards the GPs. They did not ask for this and I feel that they do not deserve the torrent of hate raining down on them by people who neither know, nor understand, what it is like to wear their shoes. This is their child, their grandchild, and their life. Not ours.

It is easy to be a spectator and criticize their every word and action and say 'if that were me I would...' But, the thing is, it isn't us. And rather than tear them down, I choose to lift them up in prayer.

Fermi

 

[GatorMom]

I know, I think that is what most people expect they should do. I, at times myself, feel exactly the same way as you do. But really, it's easy for us to sit here and judge them, believing we would act differently, but the reality of the situation is, unless we were in their shoes, we don't have a clue how we would react..

That is very true; we don't know how we'd react. But I'd like to think I'd do the right thing no matter how painful.

Cindy Anthony knew for years her daughter had severe problems. She went around warning people to stay away from her; that Casey was trouble. When Casey turned up pregnant; why was adoption ruled out? Casey apparently didn't want her child and wanted to give her up; why would Cindy refuse to allow that? Right in that moment if she had let Casey do the responsible thing for once in her life and give the baby to someone who would raise it; she could have prevented this tragedy. Instead they setup a situation that was going to end badly; maybe they couldn't imagine it ending this badly but did they think having a baby would turn Casey around? Babies aren't tools to turn people into responsible human beings.

I do feel for Cindy because I think deep down she knows she's partially responsible for this. I wonder how many times she threatened to take Caylee from Casey; how many times did she make Casey feel like she loved Caylee more than she ever loved Casey? Called her a terrible mother; yelled that Caylee would be better off without Casey all the while knowing Casey was a very disturbed young woman.

I hope George and Cindy can survive this and find some peace and comfort in how much they loved their daughter and their granddaugherr, both of whom are probably lost to them forever. I think George is close to facing the truth but the pain of knowing his own child killed Caylee will probably break him. When I see him screaming at protesters and the media; I see a man on the edge and he's starting to fall. Cindy also appears to be cracking; who will support them when they finally come out of their denial? Lee? The poor guy will be the last man standing holding up what is left of his family.

These poor people will never be the same and years from now they'll still be living with the pain while the rest of us will have forgotten all about the Anthony family.

 

[elepher50]

There is a lot of hurting going on in the Anthony family and this whole situation is very sad. I would like to think that I would act differently in the same situation (this coming from my head) but I would probably be the worst raving lunatic ever witnessed on TV (this coming from my heart).
Thank you for bringing forth your story - I am so sad that you have gone through this - you came to the truths of what was happening in your life.
Compassion is needed for the Anthony's as they deal with the situation they have been dealt - hopefully they will be able to go forward with dignity and grace.
My words are always MOO.

 

[RhondaIL]

Got to go. I'll try to post tomorrow night to give some insight about the seach for Caylee. Thanks to all.

Be safe today Baznme!

 

[RhondaIL]

Thank you all for your kind replies. I just wanted to give a parent's viewpoint. Sometimes we're victims of our children, whether we realize it or not.

Gram2, I think that says it all.

 

[MvD]

I keep trying to remind myself how very much Cindy and George are sufferering.. and its hard as an "outsider" to keep that in mind sometimes.. the anger/distaste I have for casey, sadly does spill over to her parents when they seem to start pulling up ridiculous theories in order to make excuses for Casey. Bottom line though, Not only have they lost their innocent little grand-daughter, and probably still havent really "accepted" that , but they also know they are going to lose Casey as well. I suppose any parent does NOT want to think their own child capable of the demise of her own flesh and blood.. so even though they know DEEP down the truth, they have to hold onto the impossible hopes and theories right now.. just to keep from going totally insane. As I said, as an outsider, its easy for me to get angry when I hear Cindy or George backpedal on statements.. or flat out insist on some insane theory.. especially when they get 'combative' with media about it.. I just will have to try to keep reminding myself that regardless of what she has done.. Casey is STILL their child.. and they will love and want to protect her no matter what..

 

[LadyBugz60]

Thank you Gram2,
My heart breaks for the Anthonys, not having the perfect family myself with step children it is so hard. We tried everything to correct problems. It was and is a roller coaster of emotions. Too much Love, Tough Love, many counselors, protecting, not protecting, prayers, we did it all.. A beautiful grandson did result and I was blessed for a few years of caring for him and giving him all my love. Now not sure where he is.
The path Cindy and George are going down, I pray they don't feel alone. Some people are not judging and praying for you all to have the strength and faith to get through. God Bless them.