cindyrella7767
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This is true TES did not come here to negotiate..he came with many experienced searchers and drones to locate remains.
I wanted to post this article that describes the nature of the type of grief/loss/trauma I am talking about for the Morris Family.
There are those that may not have agreed with my HPO's ..but I am not here to sugarcoat anything for anyone.The reality after all this time is that Christina may never be recovered and the family will never have true type of closure.. a state of limbo is the worst.
I have a reason and medical science research and opinions to fully explain and back up what I am saying is true and I am praying that the families do get the support they need. IMO This is not just about finding Christina..My concern is for their mental and emotional health as well. In fact all parties concerned.
http://www.nbcnews.com/storyline/mi...wn-families-missing-face-painful-limbo-n51221
a state known as "ambiguous loss," coined by psychologist and author Pauline Boss.
That is, when somebody is missing or has vanished without a trace, and you dont know their fate, or the whereabouts of their body, and whether theyre dead or alive, Boss says. So it becomes so uncanny, and strange, for the families; theyre never quite sure if the person is truly dead.
It is the worst kind of loss to process I dont mean to say one kind of loss is worse than another. But this is the kind of loss that creates suffering without closure, Boss said. There is no closure, ever, if bodies cant be found.
Part of the reason that ambiguous loss might be so taxing on a person is the fact that our brains crave information. Some scientists have posed the theory that humans are, innately, information-seeking creatures; we need answers, we need closure and we need an ending. It becomes a problem of cognition. Its actually difficult for the brain to process this loss because there is no information about it, Boss says.
You go through partial stages of grief but you cant go through all the stages. You dont know what youre grieving for, Murphy says.
I agree with a lot of your thoughts and if they believe she's alive and are holding on to hope I sure hope there is a good reason for doing so, otherwise it just prolongs the obvious to the masses who believe she's not coming home this far out because most don't. The pressure on EA is working good reason from what I can tell as For most cases the last know person seen with someone has know the whereabouts or were involved. I hope he knows something and shares. I hope he's innocent but can help. I want the family to have a good ending to this drawn out misery and I can hold that hope but also am fully aware of the reality that she may not be found alive.
Praying everyday! It's the most I can do now as I haven't been able to be physically present. My husband is having back surgery this week so have to limit my time to focus on him. I can only pray!!!!