Texas is a common-law state. I know someone who has been with their husband for years. their oldest daughter is 35 and they have several grandchildren. I had no idea they were common-law until they had an actual wedding about 4 years ago. She told me that they had never married in a civil ceremony, so they decided they wanted to have an actual wedding. I think you have to live together a certain amount of time, and conduct business as a couple. Things like having a joint bank account, both names on a lease, referring to each other as husband or wife used to constitute common-law. This may have changed in recent years, so I'm just not sure about it. So maybe in her mind this was her husband, but it's still not an excuse to murder. Just move on Lady! There are a lot of fish in the sea!