(Guys, I just want to say, o/t,
I have a second family who are like best friends to me. There is a grow man in this circle, whom I adore.
However, he really takes a cloooose interest in the 12 year old, and she is so fond of him as well. She even spends the night there sometimes. The mom and grandma trust him completely.
Something rubs me wrong about it, but I wonder if I'm overreacting. That maybe they are just really close in an appropriate way, as an "uncle" and child can and should be. The mom and grandma are very smart. Maybe I'm just jaded from being a member here...I could never bring it up because wow the damage it would and could do if there's nothing inappropriate. So all I can do is maybe apply some child psychology via communication and subtle interview with her and keep my eyes and ears open...gah...I know you guys trust me and would encourage me to listen to my instincts, but in this case I just really do not know...I could be soo totally wrong. Trust me when I say it does not feel appropriate to mention it to the family. Thanks for listening - just needed to vent; my goal is not to derail this thread. I do feel, though, that if there's ever a supportive and right setting to bring it up, it is here at WS...)