@GordianKnot
I respect you and look forward to reading your posts but to some extent I have to respectfully disagree in part, with this post.
I am LE so there’s no greater advocate than I, however, this young lady went missing in April. Family have heard very little from LE and what they have, it’s been of no real substance from what we are led to believe. This is their child. Their baby irrespective of age and to some extent, yes they are entitled to know the basics. They are probably saying things like phone records because they have not been told that these are already ‘in hand ‘ and when something Is “off” with an investigation, which it clearly is
in this case because as a member posted up thread “ who goes missing in the mid day hours from a busy military base with no sign since” and this is the issue. Even if there is nothing nefarious happening or even happened prior, the relationship between the victims family and the Military appears strained and you know what
@GordianKnot , if this was my daughter, my relationship with LE , then it would be strained too if they tried to be dismissive of my questions and concerns regarding my daughter, my little girl. And certainly from my perspective and what I have seen so far ( although I accept that we don’t know what is happening behind the scenes and wether the family’s perception is accurate , but then likewise we don’t know if LE is being totally transparent when they say that the family has been kept fully involved in and informed of the investigation as much as they can be at this present moment in time ), I am not sure that LE and the MP do have everything in hand and of they do then they are not gibing a reasonable explanation to the family , clearly , because I have been in this situation many many times when being a conduit for investigative information being passed between LE and the victims family and no matter how angry, disappointed, upset etc that the family are, they are always able to be brought down to a reasonable level to enable information exchange, provided you treat them with dignity and respect and acknowledge their concerns and they feel listened to . However, if you are dismissive and come across as treating the family as uneducated in the ways of investigation, then you are going to get this disconnect between them and LE. That is unhelpful all around and leads to the discord that we are witness to right now.
I think as LE, because we are dealing with such situations day in and day out , sometimes we forget that this is the most important time in this families life and they may have never had any dealings whatsoever with LE too, but with all due respect to members of the public, this is just one of many major investigations on their desk, and sometimes the human aspect can go awry and be lost in translation. I’m sorry for my long winded response but certainly from my perspective, the family are hurting deeply and they should be made to feel inclusive with the investigative team, even if the information flow has stagnated, they would probably be accepting of that if the relationship between the two was on a better footing.
Again, I say this to you with my respect for your posts . Regards
@Angleterre