In all honesty. Hubby is posting bible scriptures on his Facebook now.
So he may actually not be involved. Jmo.
Lol. I used to go back on this, but I think my personal Dr. Phil profile is pretty close on understanding BB.
I think the local church community is the one community that hasn't blamed BB or turned their backs on him. At first I thought it seemed odd to suddenly start posting scripture when it seemed out of character for him. But now I just realize he's like most of the men I grew up around in these parts who simply don't know how to express their feelings. IMO, his scriptures are the only way he knows how to express grief at this moment. Sometimes sharing things on FB is a way to cope & cry out bc it's too hard to say: "my heart really, really, really hurts right now."
My father used to tell all brothers: "Man up. Don't show any emotion." Even through our own family tragedies, I've never seen any of them cry. BB seems just like the men I know.
JMO, but he just appears awkward, stumbles and is uncomfortable when speaking..,not bc he's guilty...but bc it's out of his comfort zone to talk about FEELINGS. It's much easier for him to speak about specifics of tangible matters like fitness class and dog fights. Press conferences and interviews give him the chance to be proactive on behalf of his late wife & family.
As odd as it may seem to some, a person can love someone so deeply, but they may have an inability to share those feelings. They can express pain of injuries or internal conflict, but can't share their feelings with people close to them very well.
I know BB only through friends, & I was originally very suspicious of him. However, over time I've seen him as someone who probably saw his marriage start to dissolve over a year ago. They probably tried to work on it, but it was a struggle. He's said at pressers that he's dealt with chronic physical ailments. So here you have a hot, fit, outgoing and beloved mom...and a husband who often sat in the shadows. Not just at home. Even at church he is the sound man & again behind the scenes.
Many point to all this as potential motive to, but I see BB as nothing but a wounded soul. He may not be able to express feelings correctly, he wants to protect his girls, he just lost his wife of 20 years, he may understand that embarrassment will soon arrive if extramarital affairs are exposed, he probably feels responsible for not being able to protect his wife ...and then he's just trying to process it all in a town without a murder in a decade & friends who also don't know what to do.
But that's how I feel tonight. Of course, it could all change tomorrow as we know. Lol