There are always the exceptions, the odd cases - but most single people who have kids weren't bothering with any birth control. An awful lot of them were drunk, some didn't care, others figured it's a way to get out of mom's house with the welfare check, or to get more money from the government. Sure, there are lots where they were fairly responsible, slipped up once, oops, I'm pregnant, and the guy is not someone I'd marry. I don't think that's the majority at all.AlwaysHope said:Financial Wealth doesn't make a person better... it is those people that have to work and stick together that learn responsibility. Look at Scott Peterson, everything was handed to him on a silver platter... so, i would have to disagree with that statement.
Yes, in an ideal world mom and dad should be married, own a home and have 2.5 kids. Maybe a dog and even a cat, but that doesn't happen nearly as often as it should.
I think as long as the child is in a home, where he/she is wanted, and loved.. that is all that matters.
And, not all single parents are "bed hopping" seeing what the new flavor of the day is... not everyone is like that.
And... as you stated: "out-of-wedlock, unwanted, etc. pregnancies"... yeah, maybe they should have used better birth control... and maybe they were using some... nothing is 100%, well except for not having sex. But, there are plenty of options... adoption is one. I guess it shouldn't matter how or why the child was conceived, he/she has every right to be loved, no child should ever have to think of themselves as an accident or unwanted.
Just my thoughts on it!
Financial issues - the difference isn't between having a hundai or a cadillac, a nice home or a small apartment, it's the difference between being on welfare or not, medical insurance or not, good food or not, a parent who works one job or a parent who works 3. Being married makes a huge, huge difference in a child's environment growing up - whether they grow up in a crime ridden ghetto where all the role models are successful gang leaders and the schools are out of control, or a more normal lower middle class location.