I was trying to type a reply to one of Dolly's posts in the previous thread last night, and I spent so long over it because I couldn't express adequately what I wanted to say and by the time I gave up and scrapped it, the thread was closed anyway. It was the post about IS dumping Helen in excrement and then sat eating his Chinese. I agreed with Dolly's sentiments entirely and wanted to add something which I then decided sounded like rubbish so I gave up trying. I will try again with my morning brain but to be honest it still sounds clumsy.
It is to do with the significance of putting Helen in the pit to rot away and how it meant she would never have a funeral, never have the love bestowed on her that was her right, never allowing her family to honour her and allowing them to suffer for the rest of their lives, searching and never having closure.
That coldness (and this is why I can't express it properly because we know it existed anyway from the fact it was murder with premeditation) means he is unable to love. You can't compartmentalise love, have love for your sons but no love for Helen. Because there is no rationale to hate Helen. It isn't hatred for Helen, it is taking her life AND giving her nothing in death. No remorse. There was nothing left for him to do afterwards in terms of processing or grieving. It was over for him. She was nothing to him.
I've seen posts this morning postulating that he was worried about dying and his sons not being provided for. Knowing his inability to love, from the way he dealt with Helen as you would toss away an old chicken carcass, I can't believe that was his motive. He is cold and empty. Really. He does not have love for anyone. He is a true psychopath.
Nothing has been said in the trial about him being loving, not one family member has said it. Isn't it strange that his sons weren't asked that? I'm sure it would have been played on big time if there were examples of it to give the jury. In the Ben Butler trial we had home videos of him taking his children to the park and their birthday parties and Christmas present opening, stories about making pizzas with them and taking them shopping to the Disney store to buy perfume.
We heard IS isn't confrontational or violent but that doesn't mean loving. I would be willing to bet actually that he is controlling through other means, like sulking, teasing, running others down and gaslighting. He might have emulated love for Helen, but it was hollow, a game he enacted to get her money. I don't think it's even about money, it's about what money represents for him. Power.
He will play any game to get it. Given that he has demonstrated all this, I think it's more than a safe bet he has never loved anyone in his life. Everyone in his life exists to be used. He isn't human as we know humans to be, so I don't think we can discover true motive that is understandable within our own experience. Rehabilitation if that were a goal, is out of the question.