I totally agree with you and for me, I'm angry that the concepts of NB being an alcoholic who had relapsed plus mentally / emotionally unstable due to menopause represent misogynistic anti-feminist women hating tropes that have been used through the ages to dismiss and destroy women - they might as well have said she was 'hysterical' and had done.
The police could have simply said that she was struggling with personal health and emotional issues.
There's no evidence she's harmed herself or was drinking. She was with her dog, on a work call, after having dropped her girls off at school, she got them ready that morning as per the statement of PA. There's nothing to indicate she was being chaotic, drunken, or odd. There's no evidence she had decided to 'set the scene' for a disappearance - in which case it would also be a frankly bizarre scene to set.
In the UK two women per week are murdered by their partners. We have male rapists and even murderers working for the police force. Women and children are snatched, abducted, raped, murdered by male predators on a terrifying scale. I believe that NB has been murdered.
What is the precedent for a woman struggling with her mental health to 'set the scene' for disappearing by abandoning her dog and phone? When has that ever happened? Does it not sound more like she was 'removed from the scene' by someone who has done something nefarious with her? She was vulnerable, we know that now.
How long do we have to wait before people accept she's not in the water? Or are we no supposed to all feel satisfied that due to her 'alcoholism' and 'menopause' she's dead in the water. There is no logic, it makes no sense, but it sure buys straight into old patterns of hateful abuse of women.