Tortoise
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It is indeed a complex nightmare of a situation for NM. Evident I'm his hoarding. (I read into it that the one person he loved. Gave up on him. (His mom) for whatever reason. Why would a mother do that? To pass him off to his Grandmother. He was only 7. Was he a difficult child? I'd love to know. To Profile him. So now he has had rejection from the one person he craved love from. And yet a few years later. He has another force to fight for his mother's love.. Becky.. now why would a Mother give up her own child. To pass him off to grandparents. And yet bring up someone else's child. And not only that... to spend almost every waking moment with her. At school also.. This must of been soul crushing for him. And damaging him beyond imagination.
So the seeds of evil were sowed. Rejection from the ONE he loved the most.
At least with his hoarding. HE made the choice to keep or not. HE for once. Had control.
Hence his controlling of SH. In his warped mindset. To love is to control. And SH was as damaged as he was. Now that was the fertiliser for the evil seed that was sown.
I can't make an accurate Profile of NM
not having his childhood details. But you get the gist.
And would of gone full circle with their babies. As they grew up. They would of been controlled..... Thank goodness the cycle has been broken.
Whether AG & DG will survive thru this. I really don't know. Even tho he loves her very much. Her son took the life of his baby. I don't think he will ever forgive that.
It's a very tangled Web. A Web I don't envy them being in.
I'm glad I saw the interview with DG and AG on Good Morning Britain.
He said he initially blamed Anjie for being NM's mother, but then he made a very reassuring statement to the effect that NM is an adult and his mother is not responsible for what he does. He seemed able to be very rational and I can see that he adores Anjie.