I'm trying to as well. Does she think he's mentally ill? SH the dominant one? Hmmm *scratching head*. Maybe, NM painted SH like that to her?
Edit: It would be good if she could give some instances of SH's dominance over NM.
We've heard from quite a few other sources that this was not the case, so I feel she is trying to justify things to herself (re SH's supposed 'dominance'). And you're right, that could be partly the way NM painted her. It seems he was quite the moany barsteward so I wouldn't be surprised if SH wasn't off limits in that.