I don't get why some people are so sensitive about this guy. I'm pretty objective since I don't really know what was going on. I was just relaying info of what I read. I haven't seen anyone here attacking him or the family, just trying to understand what happened.
Found Deceased UT - Michael Cavallari, 30, Grand County, 27 Nov 2015
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Tulessa
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I am so sorry sweetheart. And to all of you that have lost a sibling, I send cyber hugs. Prayers for his family, as they are going to need it. I have lost 2 brothers, one to a violent murder, you don't get over it, you simply cope. Cases like these are painful reminders to hold your family close. You may not get that chance tomorrow.
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Wow! Thank you friend for sharing this.
It "appears" from that blotter site (though I might be reading it incorrectly) that Michael was released from jail on November 27th on his own recognizance.
It says:
"Release Type: Bond Posted"
I think this means he didn't pay cash, instead used a bond company, but I'm not sure.
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Shouldn't we be sensitive about all the people who's stories get posted on Websleuths? These are real people's lives we are talking about with real families and friends who loved them. A young man is dead and his family is left to pick up the pieces. IMO the "whys" are none of our business unless the family chooses to share their insight with the public. Sometimes it's just time to move on.
RIP Michael
It also says $0.00 for bond amount.
IMO, moving on would have been fine, well, and good, until some posters described Michael as a domestic violence abuser toward his ex-girlfriend who should thank her lucky stars that she no longer has to be concerned about that. Having said that, I think it is important to straighten that "story" out because from what has been published, Michael was NEVER charged with DV and it's just not right for him and his family to be remembered as such. IMO
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Some of us look at these cases objectively and like to explore all the facts out there to help to understand why these things happen. Some might not care to know, and that is their perogorative. They can stop following the case. I respectfully wish them well and appreciate their input. Those of us who care to continue to explore the deeper layers are free to do so. If every person who died had no further information released about them there would be no history books, no forums here on murder cases, and would put a tremendous amount of people out of work, including those who study human behavior. It is unrealistic to have the expectation that someone's mark on the world dies with them. This includes the darker parts of their lives. No one is unflawed. Everyone is fully human. MOO.
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Exactly! I agree with you! Michael was never charged with DV and he has no history of it that I've seen. There's nothing but rumor about him having drug use issues so why are these things even being said? Radar is gossip, not MSM. His family is dealing with his sudden death and shouldn't have to endure this kind of on-line speculation. Good for you for trying to straighten it out, ILOKAL!
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Exploration still can be done respectfully without all the rumors and speculation. No one learns a thing from that.
From People Magazine:
http://www.people.com/article/michael-cavallari-getting-live-track
Here we have a REAL name of the person commenting about Michael, not just some alleged "neighbor" who also "quotes" other "neighbors" yet wants to remain anonymous.
http://www.people.com/article/michael-cavallari-getting-live-track
Here we have a REAL name of the person commenting about Michael, not just some alleged "neighbor" who also "quotes" other "neighbors" yet wants to remain anonymous.
http://www.hngn.com/articles/159974...ound-dead-cold-temperature-factor-sheriff.htm
Also note that the "girlfriend" is now referred to (in this article) as an unidentified female.
Also note that the "girlfriend" is now referred to (in this article) as an unidentified female.
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He was battling addiction issues and mental health issues. He had been considering rehab.
http://www.people.com/article/michael-cavallari-family-planning-memorial
From what I read in that article, Michael told his mom shortly before his sad and untimely death that he was considering "alcohol" rehab. The article says nothing about mental health issues or drug addiction. This and other articles have stated that Michael was successfully working for his father's company in real estate development.
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I'm glad someone who actually knew him well is speaking out. The whole situation is tragic in many ways. This was someone's child, someone loved by friends and family members. As painful as it must be for them to read some of the articles and comments (if they are even reading them), I hope and believe his loved ones will remember the happy times and the love he brought to their lives. At the end of the day, that is what matters. In my experience with a loved one who was completely destroyed by the media after his death, I can say that No person, article, comment, etc can take those personal memories away. I don't remember the image the media and police put out of a large guy with muscles who was allegedly being aggressive and was shot 9 times by an inebriated wannabe cop on a public street. He was made to sound like a monster. instead I remember riding bikes with my cousin, anxiously waiting at the end of the driveway for their car to come down our street when they visited every summer, and him teasing me about my boyfriends. i think of how sensitive he was and how much he was loved.
I pray Michaels family can grieve in their own way and cherish those personal memories. And that goes for everyone reading this who has lost a loved one, I sincerely pray that you let yourself get lost in the happy memories sometimes.
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Actually, the article states that Michael's friends say he "dealt with mental health issues." Perhaps you missed that? I have read this now in several articles. And I mentioned *substance abuse* previously. Substance abuse is defined as an overindulgence or addiction to drugs and/or alcohol. I'm not entirely sure why you seem to be determined to dismiss these things or argue against them. I didn't write the article. I also have no judgement about it and am left feeling a great deal of compassion for someone who appeared to be struggling.
You articulated my thoughts exactly. I've been coming to this site for nearly 2 years & followed a handful of threads & this is the first time I've noticed people calling out others for their opinions. We are all basically speculating on here. I thought that was what this site was for. I'm always interested to read what another person's perception might be. If we start criticizing people's opinions & have to sensor ourselves so that we don't offend anyone, I think I ruins what (to me) this site is all about. Kills creativity & thought provoking ideas that we can learn from.
Truly, I am a sensitive person & sometimes even try not to come to this site because it's sad stories that get me down. I'm really not trying to be mean or offend anyone. But we kind of need to be able to speak freely here without upsetting people. It's not a support group as far as I know.
Although substance abuse is the addiction to or overindulgence to drugs and/or alcohol, a person can suffer addiction to many things. I felt when you stated the article said Michael was dealing with "addiction issues" that needed to be clarified to addiction to "alcohol" which is what the article referred to. I did, however, miss the mention of mental health issues. I was tired and should have read the article more carefully. I apologize for that. I don't wish to dismiss or argue against anything, I just feel that some here have taken creative license in telling Michael's "story". Criminal threats become domestic violence and his issues with alcohol become "substance addiction" which seems to include an addiction to drugs when it doesn't seem to exist. As far as "mental health issues", he might have been suffering from depression. We simply don't know.
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We don't know, no one here is trying to write his story or anything else. Please understand that is not and never has been my thought process. I am sorry I thought that this was a forum in which We were here to discuss such cases. When one disagrees with theories etc. we move along and continue. With all due respect I believe I have said two or three times now that i wish nothing more than peace and solace for his family and friends. I know they are hurting and miserable right now. I not one time said he was or did do anything to her specifically, I simply said I hope she is in a safe place until he shows up. Huge difference, surely we can agree on that. Hopefully with this being said, we can move forward agreeing that no one here is attempting to write his "story", or to put blame on someone who's not here to defend his side! So please accept apology for upsetting you. I never wanted to do that to anyone.