Elisaa444
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Amen! I was just thinking the other day about all the different things Jonni has done for the last seven+ months to keep her missing daughter's face and information in the public eye. Jonni said from day one that she would never stop looking for her daughter, that she would not let the community forget that her daughter is still missing and she will not stop doing all she can until two things happen and they are: her daughter, Christina Morris is found and Justice is served to the person(s) responsible. And some say "well, sometimes parents are just grieving too hard to handle much or in denial or blah blah blah" well Jonni is heavily grieving, she is angry, she is beyond exhausted, she has had to spend enormous amounts of time away from her husband and her step-children to focus on her missing daughter, she had to give up her management position at her job (at least for the time being) yet she is doing ALL of that because to her - This is NOT about her - it is about her Missing Daughter who desperately needs her help. I'll admit when Jonni first said she was leaving her current home of OK to go to TX to do all she could everyday to keep her daughters case alive in the community and to essentially find Christina - I wondered to myself what can she really do everyday other than hand out fliers and do interviews here and there. Well, that woman taught me that there is a lot a parent can do. Just the amount of searches she has down on her own is mind blowing and she is still at it 7+ months later.
AJ has been missing for less than a month. It made me really sad when I was following the BAJH Facebook page and during those first 7 days or so there are way too many posts that say: "No new information today." I translated that to mean "So, ya'll will stop asking let me go ahead and announce: NOPE don't have anything to tell you nosy people. Nothing to see here. Carry on." My friend asked me why is this getting me emotionally all "riled up?" Implying since I don't know AJ it is weird to be upset about it. The answer to that is I don't have to 'know' AJ, another human being, to be upset and angry that imo she is not getting and has not been getting what she so deserves in this life and imo even today when she cannot speak for herself (for whatever reason) there is no one speaking for her and doing ALL they can for her...and to know I can't do anything to change any of that for her also makes it upsetting.
It is true everyone responds to grief and horrific situations differently. I can understand missing parents all having varying emotional dispositions. For example, if I see a parent on TV giving an interview and they are not crying but speaking more matter-of-fact that wouldn't be hinky to me... As long as that same parent were desperately asking the public for their help, basically doing all they can to further the cause in bringing their missing child home. To me I am basing my disappointment (to put it mildly) in this situation not only on emotional response or lack thereof but more on the lack of action ...Even if JH truly thinks her daughter is somewhere "safe" doesn't she still want to find her and get her back home where she will know for sure that she is "safe?" I can see a parent being in denial and telling themselves their daughter is "safe" but aren't there moments where your mind leads you to question that? Or to at least question is my daughter hungry? cold? etc.
I don't know it all makes me crazy with worry for AJ. I probably need to take a break and distance myself a bit since I can't do anything about anything. I need to channel my energy into my own sweet baby girl and take a breather. Of course, I'll continue to pray for AJ and her well being and I'm sure I will absolutely think of her all the time.
