This case is overflowing with hink.
There are a lot of clues that seem to indicate Decker was estranged or ready to end her marriage with her husband. Was he at peace with this, or had it been planned/know/mutual between them? Unsure. The fact that the last activity on her phone was on January 29, her husband leaves the first week of February for Afghanistan, and she is not there at the airport to see him off, is the biggest red flag ever.
1. It shows that Emile was in the area or possibly with his wife between Jan 29 and the day he left.
2. If he stayed ELSEWHERE between Jan 29 and his deployment, and NOT with his wife, that not only shows the strained relationship, but what adds more hink is why he didn't seem to have contact with his own wife via phone in those days before he left. I mean, it's bad enough you are not living or physically staying with your own wife before you head off to a warzone, but you don't have any contact with her in place of that??? HINKY!
Yes, you better believe my husband is spending every last waking moment he can with me before he leavs for a deployment or even a short TDY. Naturally I would still have to work but that doesn't mean he would just leave me early to go off with friends instead. Unless of course these rumors are true and there was a problem in the relationship. However, if there was a problem then why go to Hawaii (where her father is) and then her grandparents for "vacations". Do we know if their son went with them on these trips? If so maybe it was just a we are bringing your grandson to you since we have time thing?!
3. Okay, aside from it being weird to me that her family had not seen or at least been in contact with her since the holidays, but when she failed to show up at the airport to see Emile off, and they seemed to just shrug their shoulders and wave away their slight concern, that is just REALLY hinky. Then, they don't report her missing until the middle of February!!!! You better believe my mother would have reported me missing to police over the phone, right there in the airport, lol. Something is just not right here. Either her family REALLY dropped the ball or has a strained relationship with her, or Decker has disappeared in the past and no one wants to mention this or fess up.
This is where there are conflicting reports so we really don't know. I have read the holiday is the last time they had contact with her, I have read a couple of days before the 29th is the last time, I have read she and Emile were with her grandparents around the 28th, I have read her family was at the airport and also that they weren't. That's the issue ... we really don't know.
4. Emile does seem to garner some hink with this situation, especially with the neighbor complaining about hearing fighting frequently from their apt, in addition to the estrangement clues and him still being in the area when she last had contact with anyone (phone). And it seems convenient that he deploys to a foreign country for military service right after she is last heard from (phone). HOWEVER, this estrangement that they seemingly had could also mean that Decker was indeed involved with another man, if we are to believe the rumors, and that HE could be responsible, not Emile, for her disappearance.
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And on another hinky note, I find it VERY odd that her toddler is not living with her AND her husband and is instead with her mother. I don't buy the assumption from other posters that since she was busy with school, the baby was living APART from Decker. I've heard of young mothers LIVING with their parents, while the parents take over with the baby, while the young mother is at school/work, but the fact that they are all living apart is ODD.
I do know some that have done this. Would I do it? No, but that's me. Shoot I'm about to be in the same prediciment as her after my little one is born. I will work, finish school, and have/raise a child while my husband is deployed ... it's just the way of my life and I knew that going in. Anyways, so while I find it odd I just don't think it's an issue in regards to her disappearance. JMO
I also find it odd, and very sad that this woman's family waited 2 weeks before reporting her missing. I am unsure what the situation is. Between the holidays and Jan 29, they said that they had no contact from her/not heard from her. Does that mean SHE never reached out to them, but THEY TRIED to contact her?? Or they flat out never communicated with her? After she failed to show up at the airport---did they try to call her right then and there? Did they try and contact her in the days/weeks following?
Yes this has been my main concern as well. Why wait 2 weeks and especially after no being at the airport ... but this brings me back to the conflicting airport stories in general. We don't know if it was planned for her to not be there, we don't know if her family was truly there, we don't know anything for sure and that bites!
I just find it sad---if this is the actual situation---that her family goes for a full month without communicating with her, and then another 2 weeks before going to police. UNLESS, there is a pattern of her going missing.
My final "hink"ling is why I have not heard of this case until today. I live about 1.5 hours away from Ashburn and occasionally watch the DC/NoVa news and NOTHING. No local or national media coverage. Sad and odd.
We'll see what happens I guess.....