katydid23
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Actually 2/3rds of victims aged 18-29 had a prior relationship with their rapist. 34% of women surveyed in just one research study state they have been victims of sexual coercion by their intimate partners or husbands. It's especially prevalent in abusive relationships because as we should know, rape is about power and control, not sex.
But back to the drunk girl on campus scenario:
17 Beliefs About Sexual Assault That Are Totally Wrong
National Institute of Justice Statistics
from rthe link:
Acquaintance rapists — the kind who are likely to be targeting fellow students on campus — have a very specific MO. Those predatory men intentionally target women they perceive as vulnerable, and they often ply them with alcohol, sometimes until their victims pass out, and then they sexually assault them. They rely on the misconception that sexual assault is a miscommunication, a misunderstanding, a drunken mistake. And they rely on the fallacy that drunk girls are kinda-sorta asking for it. Because so many people believe these misconceptions, rapists get away with their crimes and seek out other victims. It's the exact opposite of a misunderstanding — it's a series of calculated decisions.""
Well, imo, that ^^ is kind of making my point for me. What I have been trying awkwardly to say is that it is wrong for us to assure our girls that they can safely drink with a guy, climb into his bed, do some sexual foreplay, then say NO, and go to sleep, confident in the fact that he will stop. The above seems to say that in fact, there are a lot of acquaintances that know from the start they will rape their 'friend' if need be.
We should not blame our girls but we should warn them, imo. But we seem to be doing the opposite. It is like saying ' i have the green light so I can walk as long as I am in the crosswalk', so I step off the curb, as two big rigs come racing down the hill.