katydid23
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I was talking to my cousin today and she said her daughter brought up that text as showing how disturbed JD was.Not really. I said worse things to my friends about my abusive ex-husband. Mostly involving trauma to his genitals. People vent things like that when they are over stressed, angry and afraid, or just plain fed up. It doesn't mean they are "disturbed" in general. IMO
My cousin reminded me that we used to describe the many ways we would 'disable' our cheating ex's if we could. Like thinking of ways to set their crotch on fire with gasoline and a BBQ lighter. We discussed various methods in flowery, vulgar terms and laughed about it.
We were VENTING. I don't think that makes us troubled or disturbed. We were hurt and traumatised by their cheating ways and the betrayal so we said the most shocking things we could imagine about what we would like to do in response. Lighting a cheating boyfriend's crotch on fire sounds very vicious but it is a joke and also a way to release pain and anger.
I think JD was doing the same thing by joking about what to do with his cheating wife's corpse. It is not unusual for someone to vent that way during a contentious divorce. JMO