Re BBM and JMO
I agree and I think most all of us agree the slain mother probably thought she was doing the right thing. In hindsight it is easy to see that her actions were likely the trigger that set the boyfriend off on a killing rampage.
We have the luxury of seeing that now but the mother probably thought the worst that could happen was maybe some nasty text messages or nasty phone calls. She obviously did not expect the boy would go on a killing rampage. If she had been able to see the future then she likely would have changed her approach.
If I read things right then from the boys point of view I could almost see why he may have flipped out.
-Permanent loss of his "love".
-Possibly or even likely he could get kicked out of his school because of the letter that was sent to the school which was the same school the girl went to.
-Possible shaming by his schoolmates as news spread to other schoolmates.
-Embarrassment with his own parents since they were also directly informed by the slain mother.
From his point of view his life was ending as he knew it.
I know that is an extreme view of what he may have felt but based on his extreme murderous actions it is probably pretty close to what he felt.
This case is something we can learn from in that we really dont know how other people are going to react when interacting with them in a negative way.
Regarding the BBM part which relates to this case in the way we all have to sometimes deal with others in a negative way.
I constantly have discussions with my wife about how to behave on the road when other drivers do perceived "wrongs". My approach which I firmly believe is the best way to stay safe is to usually bite my tongue and ignore things for the most part with an occasional honk of the horn if the situation really deserves that or to honk for safety reasons to make sure the other driver knows I am there on the road with them. My wife's approach which I have a very hard time convincing her is not the right way is to become hostile with the other driver and yell out the window or give a certain finger gesture. I have tried to explain to her that one of these days she will do that to the wrong person who is having a very bad day and things will not turn out good. She seems to agree but I fear when I am not with her that she resorts back to her approach
I guess the point is that people can be unpredictable and even hostile at times especially when it is a negative situation so IMO we need to be cautious in our approaches with dealing with people when the situation is a negative one. The mother had the right idea to protect her child but obviously nobody wanted things to end up with 3 dead people so there had to be a better way.