IMO, there is a big difference between giving your child appropriate freedom and outright neglect. One is active parenting and the other is laziness or plain 'can't be bothered to give a care'. It took a lot more time and effort to watch from ever increasing distances that they were making good decisions. It meant I couldn't read, cook, clean at those times instead of thinking 'oh well, they are out of my hair for the next 20 minutes, I don't have to think about them.' And even when I could trust that they could and would make good decisions on a consistent basis you have to worry about others. Accidents happen.
Evil happens. I really doubt anyone really thinks a 6 yr old doesn't need guidance anymore. That a roof, food and clothes are the only thing parents are needed for at that age. They did not seem to have any rule that she needed to ask to leave the home. It seems the parents would notice if the other independent adult went missing before they would notice if their dependent child did. All this in no way could be considered just a different but still valid form of parenting, imo. Parenting takes constant hard work it isn't just some ownership title.
BBM - This is the bit that got me too. They apparently woke up and when they noticed she wasn't there, they just assumed she'd gone out and would have breakfast somewhere, then later on she'd have lunch somewhere else, then even dinner ..... and nobody thought to check. This tells me that was a normal day to them - that she frequently got up and went out unfed, unattended and it wasn't a problem for the parents that they didn't have a clue where she was all day long.
With regard to the eating at various places - this bothers me in so many ways. Firstly, was it just taken for granted that someone would feed her? Did the neighbours do it to ensure she got something to eat? Did the parents ever check what she was eating? She could have been eating nothing but junk day after day for all they knew. And did the parents feed other people's children in the same way? Or are people just putting a more positive slant on it to make the parents look better? Sounds nicer to say the neighbour's loved her and invited her in for meals .... rather than, they fed her because her parents never came looking for her and she told them she was hungry, and hadn't had breakfast.
Also, did the parents ever go out of the park, without letting her know? Did they just leave the community to look after her, even if the neighbours didn't actually know they had been left in charge? Did the parents ever check where she had been during the days she wasn't home, or ask her what she'd been up to? Did she go to multiple homes to play and eat, or was it the same one?
My 18 year old still tells me where he is going when he goes out, and texts me if his plans change or he is staying at a friends. Even my 15 and 13 year old wouldn't ever just go out, without letting me know. And my 9 year old has to take a walki talki with him when he plays on the street outside the house, even though he knows he is only allowed 100m in each direction! I know all those neighbours, but he knows not to go in their houses unless he comes home and asks - and I check that they have invited him in. Even then, I still go and get him after half an hour or so. The other night my 20 year old wasn't home by 1.30am (after going out at 9.00pm) and I was worrying that something had happened to him and was texting him to see if he was okay. Turns out he had taken his friend to hospital as he had hurt his hand and needed an xray. What I am saying is, after my 20 YEAR OLD SON hadn't come home when I expected, I started to do checks after just a few hours ...... yet nobody checked a 6 YEAR OLD GIRL for an entire day???
That isn't free range parenting, or giving a child freedom, that is neglect and expecting other people to do your job for you. And don't get me started on the description of her as a spoiled brat who always got her own way. Whose fault is that, dad? If she is spoilt, its because you spoil her. However, in this case I think he is mistaking "spoiled" for "nothing bothering to set appropriate boundaries".
Finally, any random abductor would have surely taken her out of the area. The fact she is still "at home" suggests to me that it is someone very close who did this. Whatever happened to her, happened in the park or just outside it ..... so why didn't anyone hear or see a thing? Makes me think it happened inside a trailer and I won't say whose I suspect. I was still willing to believe it might have been some kind of accident, something happened due to a lack of supervision and someone panicked and hid her ...until the press conference alluded to a bigger crime.
Sorry for rambling but these cases make me so angry. Why have children if you can't be bothered to sacrifice your own time to look after them properly? Yes, they'll have to live with this and they will have regrets, but it shouldn't take the death of a little girl to make you think in hindsight "if only I hadn't let her have the freedom of a 16 year old ...... if only I'd gone looking for her as soon as I noticed she wasn't home that morning ......... if only I'd ensured she had set times to come home for her lunch etc ........ she'd still be here". Those things are the most basic of parenting requirements.