margarita25
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I wonder how ShadyLady is doing.
You got some?
Unfortunately, the only things we have verified come from SM and we cannot quote those on here.
I think it's that so many of us are trying so hard to understand what made this 17 yr old do what he did that the brain injury aspect is being explored (and it's a good thing, I might add). He was an athlete so a head injury causing him to not "be himself" or medication or lack of the right amount or whatever, made him snap. From the time I was 10 years old I've been reading true crime magazines and have been simply fascinated with criminal pathology, so I get all that, and find it intriguing as well.
I just think we need to be careful and stick with known facts, and documented evidence. JMO.
Limbic rageI know other people have given similar examples, but I'm going to give another one anyway.
One Of my neighbors (has been for almost 10 years) was in a very serious car accident about 5 years before he moved here. He had a lot of serious injuries, including TBI. After years of therapy and physical rehab, he seems to be doing fairly well. He works about 20 hours a week, got married about 8 years ago, walks (using a walker), and is an intelligent young man. A few years ago his wife started working as my housekeeper, and she occasionally talks about his problems. Everybody who knows him talks about what a nice guy he is, how easy going he is, how well he treats his wife (even she says all of that), and what a hard worker he is. One day his wife asked to change the day she came that week because she had to take him for an appointment about 60 miles away because his doctors here are at a loss for what else they can do to control his episodes of rage. The damage to his brain cause them, but he's been taking antidepressants, anti-anxiety meds, and something else but they still don't control them completely.
She says that he has one at least once a week these days, and he usually ends up throwing furniture, knocking holes in the walls, breaking things, etc. Once it's over, he goes back to his nice, somewhat quiet, loving husband, and seldom remembers a lot about what happened. If this is also going on with GG, it would explain the rage that seemed to be behind the attack. What it wouldn't explain is the rape and murder that resulted from the rage. The man I was talking about has some serious and extremely "violent" episodes, but never once has he hit another living thing (human or animal) and never has he touched anyone inappropriately during one. The head injuries may explain the anger and loss of control, but there was obviously something else wrong to begin with. MOO
I'm sure there are, but I think they are likely very rare.
Personally I do not believe that anyone is "born evil". Nor do I believe you will become abusive if you have been abused as a child, or violent if you have had brain injury. Just like I do not believe that if you let your child run free, your child will be harmed by a stranger.
What I do believe is that an abused child has a greater risk of growing up to abuse others than a child without abuse in his/her background. And a child who has had brain injury has a greater risk of growing up to be violent than one who hasn't had any injury. And a child who runs free is at a higher risk than those who are helicoptered.
Saying "I had a concussion and I am not violent". Or "I was abused and I don't abuse my kids" really does not change the facts that certain things can, and do, raise the likelihood of violence and abuse. Finding out what is in GG's background does not excuse his evil behavior, nor does it really give a reason. But understanding what is in GG's background helps further the understanding of what to look for in others that may put them at a higher risk of becoming another GG. And someday the hope is that we will be able to identify children at risk for these behaviors, and intercede with some sort of help to prevent that life from going down the wrong path.
Just my thoughts....
I had to step away from this case for a few days but I have a question. I haven't caught up on reading everything, but did GG have a documented head injury or is this just 'what if'?
Thanks!
There is no evidence of anything except everyone thought he was just swell and his family is wonderful.
Not much to go on there.
One day your lovely child wakes up and kills the neighbor child. Hard to swallow that.
Yes. But I was wondering, are there any cases of a person with pedo who has never once given in to that urge to molest? It would be rare but just wondering if it is possible.
There is no evidence of anything except everyone thought he was just swell and his family is wonderful.
Not much to go on there.
One day your lovely child wakes up and kills the neighbor child. Hard to swallow that.
Not rare at all. There are many pedophiles that are happy just wstching child *advertiser censored* and fantasizing, but have never actually victimized a child directly.
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Best post all day!
That is exactly it! We owe it to J and to all other victims to find out exactly what led up to this. I don't think anyone is trying to excuse the behavior. But if we can figure out why some people act one way and others don't with the same contributing factors, that would go along way in preventing these tragedies.
I don't believe that anyone wakes up one day and chooses to be a sexual sadist, psychopath, sociopath or murderer. If it was that simple, than any of us could do that. . .choose the same thing. I know I couldn't. I can squish a wolf spider but daddy long legs are catch and release. I don't believe, ever in a million years, I could choose to kill an innocent six year old
I'm not convinced that GG is a pedophile. I think he is a coward. He picked a victim that was the most vulnerable. Ted Bundy, Klunder, Sigg, etc, all did the same. They were killers. The primary crime is the murder...not the rape. What GG did was overkill. I think this crime fits those. I hate to say this, but most pedophiles are not murderers. Their primary motivation is the sexual assault. In their twisted minds they convince themselves that it's mutual. Society is wrong, not them. And they try to convince their victims the same. This crime was a whole different animal. Violence, rage and murder was the whole point. The sexual assault was just part of that...adding insult to injury.
I think the whole "he's just evil" thing is a bit archaic. It's like when they thought people that had seizures were possessed by the devil. If we know better, we will do better. We can't bury our heads in the sand and not face these very real tragedies without investigating the root causes. IMHO J didn't have to die. We owe it to her to figure out where we failed.
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