I think that a degree of disbelief is caused by the apparent inconsistencies. They had a good marriage and enjoyed yoga and kickboxing and being with friends and each other but he was an emotional abuser all along. No wait, he wasn't, it only started in 2009 when the financial problems started and his anger and true character began to show. Oh yeah, and he's abused his daughter. Terrible, he must not be allowed any visitation with her, her mother fought tooth and nail not to allow it so it must be true. Oh but wait a sec, she said that she'd rather have her daughter with the father than with strangers... so does that mean he wasn't so abusive after all? Or is the mom nuts to want her daughter with such a dad?
JMO, I think there may be a grain of truth in there somewhere as people don't usually divorce if they're getting along splendidly, and perfect parents do not leave babies alone in the car. So there may have been very bad quarrels and nasty incidents and less than perfect parenting where both parties were at fault. But something in the picture that is being painted doesn't ring quite true.