If you look at pic 5368982600_cce6717543 of Sky in his bedroom on the floor both the mattress and box spring are leaning against the wall which seems strange to me and a bit dangerous. If they tip over they could crush and smother a 2 year old. Julia's house is not baby proof at all. This is consisten with Solomon's explanation of how she didn't let them sleep in their beds at the end. They all had to sleep on the floor so they wouldn't dirty up the beds. Unreal.
Thanks for that observation and noticing how dangerous it is for young children.
We experienced many similar things the year my daughter in law was very ill after my granddaughter was born. Please understand that after a hospitalization, MUCH counseling, psychiatric care, and compliance with medications, she is better, so I am not criticizing her her, I'm trying to help people understand the "thinking" that goes on within.
In that period of time, she would typically be VERY resentful of anything that seemed to give her child attention instead of her. I could see pointing out the dangerous mattress leaning against the wall bringing a screaming comment like "how dare you, the kids are FINE, I'm the one that needs help here, if I only had ______________, that mattress wouldn't need to be there at all".
After hospitalization when her meds would have harmed her baby so doctors stopped her breastfeeding, she didn't want to quit and told them "what I want is MORE important, if I'm not happy, the baby can't possible be happy". At that time no doctors could reason with her that having organs, bones, and a brain were more important to her 3 month old child than her mother being "happy". NOTHING else mattered but what SHE wanted. When she finally wanted to give her a bottle herself, she refused to warm it even to room temp (winter near-ice temps) insisting the baby didnt NEED that much attention. don't even get me started on the imaginary tumors she thought the baby had and how we had to watch the knives in the house. The worst memory of all was watching her run through the house stomping up and down while hanging the baby upside down (shaken baby syndrome). She could easily have claimed "abuse" when my son held her so he could get the baby safely away.
At 20 degrees, she would put on her own down coat, scarf, hat, and gloves, and then go stand outside to talk on her cell phone HOLDING HER BABY IN NOTHING BUT A THIN COTTON T-SHIRT AND DIAPER. No coat, not even socks. If we tried to go outside and cover the baby in a blanket, she would SCREAM "she's FINE, she's not COLD, I'm the one that needs help". Even when pointed out that it was cold enough for HER to wear a winter coat, she just had ZERO empathy. Always, she was the ONLY one she could feel concern for. She was completely incapable of caring for anything outside of herself. Constantly, the baby HAD NO NEEDS, while she herself had extraordinarily impossible demands.
Each event necessitated yet ANOTHER trip to both pediatricians and psychiatrists, often daily trips, so the "professionals" could evaluate and reason with her, without any real success.
As things continued to get steadily worse in spite of her medical treatment, the doctors said the baby must be cared for completely outside the home and away from her for safety. Had we not moved there to make that possible, we might be missing her today the way that Soloman is missing Sky.
She is better now. She will always struggle. There will always be a need for hyper vigilance and early warning signs of relapses. My son is incredibly kind, patient, and wants more than anything for his children to have a healthy mother and a whole family in one supportive and secure environment. There is just no way of knowing if this will be possible, but he is doing everything, and I mean everything, that a person in his predicament can do.
Anyway, I just wanted to thank those that are seeing the subtle signs that Julia's concerns are NOT for her children's health and wellbeing. I'm guessing she is super selfish and self obsessed, and that she RESENTS the attention the children need.
ETA: and his "other option" would be divorce wherein his wife would get at least some periods of custody/visitation ALONE with the kids!! How is that considered a "better option" by any reasonable thought??
IOW- I saw the stripes as part of fitting into this image she was portraying. 
