Hold on a second. You're assuming that Cindy's holding the image of a perfect family for herself. If you make that claim, determine what reason that would be. The only reason would be that internally, that family is not perfect. At what level. Where does it start?
He knows it isn't, but he has to keep his mouth shut, or catch he!! at home. He loves Cindy, and she has been a good wife in many ways.
okay, now you're touching on something here. WHY does George keep his mouth shut? Are you sure it's because Cindy has been a good wife, or is it something that benefits George?
Cindy's "pretend" perfect image is falling down. George knows it, but he truly loves her, and is caught between a rock and a hard place. Their daughter, that Cindy has tried her best to work over and mold into the family picture she had in mind, has succumbed to the wild life.
YES!!! There is a family disconnect. Cindy sees things she's ignored or pretended hasn't been there the whole time. What could it be? She is forced into a denial so dark that she wants to excuse what physical things she's admitted on tape. She cannot sustain those things she has actually attested to before this "disconnect" has happened in her mind. Her control, that thing that made her think everything was perfect in her family (sans the evidential issue of Casey's destructive and sociopathic behavior) if only it would all follow "these" rules.
Cindy resorts to "pretend this isn't happening". George knows this is a crock, but loves Cindy, and isn't strong enough to confront her.
EXACTLY. George knows it is a crock. WHY is he so convinced? Why would he know that the family life that Cindy wants to cling so desperately to is a bullcrap version of what is really going on???
Both Cindy and George need our prayers, in my humble opinion. They did their very best as parents, with Cindy steamrollering George, trying to keep the lid on Casey. Cindey thought she had the power, but Casey is turning her into a fool. George is just standing by, wondering, because Cindy told him that she had it all under control.
Cindy needs our prayers. She has loved this little baby as best she could. She has determined to not see the truth of Caylee's birth, not wanting to look at the signs she may have been given. She attempts to keep the family as she believes a family should be. In fact, Casey has learned this technique so well she integrates herself into the families of those she associates closely with in order to see how THEY behave so as to better integrate herself into the patterns of the life of that person she is currently involved with, male or female. She looks to them to show her how to behave in the situation. Casey never had the power. Someone took it from her, and it wasn't Cindy. Cindy didn't offer her protection. Cindy becomes the focus of Casey's anger and wrath because she looks to her mother to protect her from horrific things, and she views Cindy as having turned away from what was going on.
George has been paying Casey off for years, explaining the money that Cindy says is missing. George has been hushing Casey off for years, trying to keep her quiet from what happened. Casey developed a sociopathic personality through the gains she made from the violations she endured. It is from here she determined that it was "time to take care of numero uno" and established a plan to make it just that.
Casey Anthony is someone who has learned over years to take care of and rely on only herself. She has learned over years how to make sure that her own needs are met. She has learned to shut down everything that says "don't take advantage of or harm someone else" in that pursuit. She has been trained well to know that she is the only person who will give her what she wants and has taken that lesson to the pathological level to determine that it will come at the cost of anyone who stands in her way.
That is what Caylee became. She was loved by Cindy. Cindy, who did not protect Casey from the one other person she should never have protected her from. Casey, who bore the excruciating knowledge that one parent could use her, and the other parent could pretend it wasn't happening. She learned horrible coping mechanisms to get through the day. Then suddenly....
She was pregnant. She ignored signs for months. She's been trained to ignore everything else wrong. When it becomes impossible to continue ignoring it, she makes up lies. She starts having affairs to attempt to pin the pregnancy on this guy or that one. She keeps trying until she meets Jesse, who falls for her story. They become engaged. In Jesse's mind, in his family's observation, things don't add up. Casey is obviously more pregnant than she admits. Paternity tests later prove this correct. Yet the stories of who is the real father continue to come out, and continue to be proven lies. WHO IS THAT BABY'S FATHER? Why is it such a huge secret???
The tension between Cindy and Casey only grows through the years of Caylee's life. The jealousy described is that of one child jealous of another child. Many times in the interviews or the tv clips, the grandparents mistake the granddaughter Caylee's name for the daughter's, Casey's, name. Throughout this time, Casey has begun spinning lies of a glamorous life she does not lead. She tries to blend into families that are not hers. She tries to become the woman for the man she dates. She does EVERYTHING but try to be the daughter that Cindy thinks she should be....that daughter that she could never be because of those things that Cindy has ignored in the family for years anyway. Casey is looking to fit in. She knows what's going on at home isn't "normal" and she wants the appearance of it. She no longer knows how to attain it. Men come into and out of her life quickly as she attempts to claim it.
Suddenly she is told to take care of the child, Caylee. She is asked to step up and deal with her "mistake" and there will be no more parental support. From her perspective, that means the money is cut off (George paying her) and no longer will she have the babysitting support (cindy) for her trying to attain a lifestyle she feels she is owed if but for the damn situation her parents have gotten her into anyway.
"Be A Good Mom" Sunday happens. Something breaks in the Anthony home. Casey decides to take Caylee away. Casey only takes her things. Caylee will have to deal with what she has. Casey has nothing but the car. She imposes on friends. She makes up stories. She spins. And finally.............She doesn't have to do that anymore. Suddenly, she is free to be with who, and wherever, she wants to be. She is free. She doesn't have to deal with it any longer.
For months (years if you believe Jesse's dad, who says he's heard of Zani for 2 years), the 'nanny' has taken care of Caylee when Casey could not. Who is this person, where did Casey meet her? These essential questions need to be answered. Does Zani exist? Well, in my theory, yes. But 'Zani' is not a person. Zani is the nickname of Xanax. So where does Zenaida come into it? Zenaida is a victim. She was someone who happened to cross paths incidentally with Casey. I doubt at the time of crossing Casey thought this was who she was going to say took her child. At the time, I believe Casey only wanted to know enough about this person to say "this is where Caylee is during the day" so she wouldn't have to fake an excuse any further. If anyone had pressed her early on, she probably would have produced an address of where her "nanny" was. No one ever did.
But things broke down at home. The excuse she used as "nanny" wasn't going to sustain her when she was forced to take care of her child. She had to punt. "Zani" suddenly became more than just a nickname for Xanax, but became the nickname for the nanny. Testing out doses to see how it would affect Caylee, I believe in the days after she left the house, Casey tried to sedate the baby so she would either sleep through a club night or party. I believe there was a night that Casey, who would check periodically on Caylee in the car, discovered Caylee either awake, and gave her more meds, or non-responsive, but either way, panicked. Casey, not wanting to face the reality, determined to shut it out. She's been well trained in that. Shut out the unpleasant things, pretend they don't exist. Deal with what you have to do and go on, pretending it never happened.
All this is to say: Casey doped the baby to have the life she thought she was owed, without having to deal with the life she was dealt (Caylee). She was responsible for the death of Caylee. She covered it up. I won't go so far as to say she should be excused for her behavior, but there are reasons she is the person she is, which designed her to be the person who could make such choices.
And continues to do so.
(by the way..........this is definitely my opinion. in fact, I'd go out on a limb to say I am about the only one with this opinion.)
